Say no to Illogic - Myth of Evia's E-zine

I am shaking my head as I read Evia's latest self-serving rant. In this essay I will point out a few things that caught my eye. I will put Evia's writing in red then follow with a response.

I've faced the fact that even if I post a million pics here and even if I posted our marriage certificates here with our pics engraved on the certificates, it wouldn't matter because many people just do NOT want to believe that we're happy-content-satisfied in our relationships, which have the usual relationships' ups and downs.

If Evia posted a million pics of American Black Women involved in interracial marriages, she would have to fabricate about 850,000 of those pics. I have posted the stats on BW and interracial marriage, people can take them or leave them.

And trust me: neither race, nor ethnicity has anything to do with male size, sexual potency or performance. This has been proven by research. However, AA males keep telling bw this HYPE. The next time one of these males says this to you, ask him how exactly is it that bm KNOW that wm can't "jump" unless they've been sexing wm? I've heard and read where some of them claim that ww have told them that. LOL! Smart move. It would be totally dumb for a ww to be in bed with a bm and tell him that wm are better. Enough said about that particular hype. The need for critical thinking is CRITICAL, y'all.

First problem, the biggest purveyor of the idea of Black Male Potency are not Black men nor Black Women, it is the very White men that Evia are trying to pimp to Black women. It is White men who control the media, and who control the porn industry that insists on that standard. I personally don't place that much importance on group anything let alone group Phallic Size. Evia forgets that many of these White men play sports with and share locker rooms with Black men. If White Men who control the media keep playing it up, maybe it is their own feelings that should be questioned.

Secondly, how insulting is this to Black women, assuming that they are only interested in Black men only because of some sexual myth. As if Black Women who don't agree with her are incapable of having higher interests such as shared history or struggle or just plain preference for Black men. Once again if you dare disagree with the almighty Evia, something must be wrong with you.

But hear this: hundreds of thousands (million?) of the the STRONGEST, MOST MASCULINE MALES could not possibly be caged in prison by weaker males. If I'm wrong, then what does "strong" and "most masculine" mean? Or, if it is true that black males are the strongest and most masculine men on earth, then what good is being strong and masculine when other men have to feed you and can put you in cages whenever they want? What is being strong and masculine really worth if the bulk of these males have abandoned most of their defenseless children? All of the superiority nonsense is a joke told to foolish women who reward these jokers by paying attention to them and giving them what they what they want. Sensible bw do not pay attention to any bm who peddles that kind of hype.

Perhaps Evia has never heard of the Holocaust. You know that thing where 6 million Jews were ripped from there homes and killed. Do people consider Jewish people weak, and especially the Men less masculine because of what happened to them? After all they were caged and fed until their deaths by the Germans.

Of course not, most sane and intelligent people consider them as victims. Their group intelligence (Jewish people are and have always been among the most educated groups wherever they live) did not prevent their victimization. Their wealth (which was confiscated by the Germans) did not prevent their victimization.

How does this relate? The Something Screwed Crews hatred for themselves and their Blackness have lead them down the path of worshipping the victimization of their ancestors and their descendants (us) as a sign of Black men's weakness. Not just Evia, but many of them. They defecate on the graves of every person who suffered and lived and died so they could be free to act the fools that they act today, both Black Men and Women. While I disagree with Mr. Queens when he calls these women "Sellouts" just for marrying White Men, I call these women sellouts for disgracing the suffering of their own people. I don't care who marries who, but when you have to justify it like this, then shame on you.

Secondly reading that passage from Evia, I would believe that Evia thinks all cops are White Men and all criminals are Black Men. No Black men (or women or Asian) law enforcement officers and no White (or Asian or Women) criminals. Need I explain the folly of this any further?


Finally on this point, not everybody is a front runner like Evia. Few fair and honest people would deny that being a White Man in America is not the most challenging of circumstances. There are people who do admire and see strength in Black Men because they continue to persevere even though not every thing is set up in their favor. Where many other groups have fled their countries in search of a greener pasture, or have been completely terminated, Blacks and Black Men have fought to get what they have. Not everybody is inclined to kiss ass just so they can "live in the suburbs".

Let's be realistic about this. No group is superior. Individuals must be vetted and judged INDIVIDUALLY.

Then why does your blog continually contradict this message? Don't see a whole lot about vetting any other group except White men.

Many wm and other non-bm who are interested in bw as potential mates also need to see these pics to know that many AA women they see everyday who may appear not to be interested in wm or non-bm are very interested, but just don't quite know how to subtly give them the "green light" and connect with them. And of course, many wm, like various other men, fear rejection, but this means that BOTH of them are going to have to take the risk or if not, in many cases, they will miss out on having the wonderful type of relationship that you describe below.

Try as best as you can to follow Evia's logic: Black men are weak because they are caged and fed by stronger White men, yet somehow these same Strong White men need to see pictures on HER website because they FEAR being rejected by the women that are associated with the weak Black men that they cage and feed.

Are you fucking jiving me?

Women who don't know how to give men a signal that they are interested? Is there such a thing? Why does a strong man need any signal? Strong and assertive men know what they want and don't wait for signals, they take action. White men are not waiting for Asian Women to signal them.

It's really a LOT of these Christian leaders (both black and white, females and males) who keep wm and bw apart.

Oh my god (pun intended) is this woman out of her mind with paranoia. Once again, shouldn't these strong masculine White men overcome any barriers to get to their Black Queens?

There is really a lot of vile behavior that has always been committed by Christians though (the Crusades, racism, sexism, etc). I've wondered too how such ***devout*** Christians could hate other people that God made, that is IF they really believe in God and IF they believe that God made these other people.

Maybe this is something she should ask herself as she has shown no grace nor mercy to what she called DBR Black Men. Aren't they god's children also?

If you're going to continue to remain in the "Christian" setting, I'd suggest that you join a multiracial church that has a sizeable number of wm/non-bm members in your age category and you have to make it a point to be approachable or maybe you're the outgoing type who can comfortably approach guys?.

Foolish me, I thought Church was a place to worship the Lord. Don't get me wrong, I know many people meet their spouses at church. However, going to Church with another agenda doesn't sound very Christian-like to me.

I've always mixed with a wide variety of other groups of people, so I feel comfortable in many settings, but most people don't get the chance or don't create opportunities to mix with a wide variety of others from other groups, so they only have the stereotypic lens to view each other through and let's face it, the negative stereotypes about both blacks and whites are BAD.

The only thing that she wrote that I almost agree with. I say almost agree because she omits Asians and Latinos and other people. She never really focuses on them anyway, so I am not surprised.

Double Standard On Blogspot?

There were two sites on Blogspot one named White Women Suck and the other Black Women Suck. As of last week, the Black Women site was blocked by blogspot, yet the White Women site remains open. Why? Of course I find the idea and content of both of these sites highly objectionable, so please don't write me pretending that I am for one site over the other. I am not. What I want to know is why the double standard? If one site is objectionable enough to close then why not the other? Or maybe enough people have not flagged the White Women Suck blog. If not I encourage you to do so by clicking here.

For those of you wondering why do I care, I am reminded of what is on the Holocaust Museum in DC:

Thou shalt not be a victim. Thou shalt not be a perpetrator. Above all, thou shalt not be a bystander.

If you are reading this and agree please click here and not be a bystander.

Difference Between Preference and Discrimination

In Evia's latest post she continues to foolishly compare actual racial discrimination with someone's individual dating preferences. I will do my best to shed some light on this. First I will qoute you what she said

I continue to get notes from black men arguing that they have the "right" to prefer lighter-whiter skin shades in women, but they do not want to accept that they are upholding the white racist construct that says that light/white skin people are superior, more attractive, more intelligent and more desirable to be around than darker skinned people. Why then do these same men get so furious when whites discriminate against them in hiring, police brutality, driving while black,--on the basis of their darker skin shades. It's all about skin shade. It's the SAME reason for that white person's discrimination.

I'll address the first part first. You notice that she never applies this logic to any other pairing other than Black Men/White Women. There are more White Man/Asian Women Couples than there are Black Men /White Woman couples and Asian Men/White Women couples combined. Are White Men guilty of creating a construct of Yellow supremacy? And unless if these same Black Men sexually crave White Men, then how does the Black Man/White Woman pairing uphold White Supremacy? It doesn't. Finally why doesn't Evia take the glass is half-full approach and view it the other way: White Women who date Black Men are rejecting the notion of White Supremacy. Of course this would be giving White Women credit for something good and her platform cannot possibly allow that.

The only real problem that Evia has with this pairing is that it doesn't favor Evia.

I know Black men who prefer Non-Black Women, Black men who prefer light-skinned Black women, Black Men who prefer Dark Skinned Women, and Black men who prefer men. Why is one set of these men entitled to their preferences and the others are not? What the Evias of the world don't get is that the biggest turnoff is not their looks, but it is the self-centered entitlement that states "like me or there must be something severely mentally wrong with you".

As for the second part, she compares police brutality to someone not wanting to date you on Saturday night. Is this woman serious? For those of you have not figured this out let me tell you the critical difference: When the police beats Leroy, there is a victim involved. When Leroy does not want to go out with Tamika, Tamika is not a victim, regardless of the reason that Leroy does not want to go out with her. Got it. Leroy has constitutional rights (to due process, to avoid cruel and unusual punishment, etc) When the police beat him up, they deprive him of those rights. Tamika has no moral, constitutional or legal rights to Leroy's affection. Fittingly we have laws on the books against the police beating Leroy up and none for Leroy not asking for Tamika's phone number.

As for hiring it is a little trickier because an employer that does not want to hire blacks could find a number of reasons not to and it is harder to prove discrimination. What happens when a employer does discriminate? The company loses because that employer is limiting the company's employee pool from the best of everybody to only one group (whites). The competent white workers lose because they have to work harder to compensate for the incompetent whites that were hired in place of competent blacks. The people who invest in the company loses because the incompetent whites are holding the company back and society loses because incompetent people are working while competent people are not. Hence we have laws against it.

On the other hand if Leroy is dating Molly while Tamika sits at home, nothing is lost except to the parties involved. If Tamika is "all that" then she will find somebody else and Leroy will miss out. If not, then she deserves to be at home alone. Leroy and Molly have each other and if that makes them happy, we live in a free society that allows us to pursue that happiness. Why does anyone have a problem with that?

The difference between true racial discrimination and personal preference in a free society is that the former attempts to and has the ability to forcibly interfere with the latter. The police or the people hiring have power over Leroy. Tamika has free will where it pertains to Leroy (the choice to obsess over him or not is hers).

And why does Evia care anyway? Isn't she supposed to be a BW-IR blogger. She contradicts herself in her own post. She writes:

Let me make myself clear AGAIN-LOL! I'm not interested in who AA males date or marry because...

then a few paragraphs later she is writing:

BE HONEST: HOW MANY AA MEN DO YOU KNOW WHO'D LOVE TO DATE A WOMAN WITH THIS WOMAN'S COMPLEXION? Hmmmm. I can hear the silence. LOL!

I thought she didn't care. In fact I could have qouted the entire second portion which was a study done on colorism of college students at some midwestern college. Why would she or her followers truly care what Black men do and who they prefer?

Click here for a very insightful explanation.

Violence Against Women: Harmful to All

As predicted, you knew that the Something Screwed Crew (SSC) would use the Chris Brown/Rhianna situation to further their agenda. As if this "proves" white men are better at taking care of women. If you want to believe that then fine. I posted the above video to give you an alternative view. And in many ways the video above is worse. Why? Chris Brown is only a 19-20 year old immature young adult. The "Officer" is a 31 year old professional who should know better. I am not advocating that a 31 year old man should ever beat up a 15 year old girl, but if one does, one should make sure that a camera is not on. And this guy was supposed to be watching the public? Yikes.

We do not have all of the details but one thing I will agree with is that Chris Brown should have been better than to even let it come to the point where we are talking about this. I have had a woman or two trigger my fight/flight response and I always take flight.

The SSC always lament at how white women supposedly receive a superior level of protection from their men. The stats that I got from the National Domestic Violence Hotline website paints a different picture:

• 43% of women and 26% of men in multiracial non-Hispanic households suffered partner violence.

• 39% of women and 18.6% of men in American Indian/Alaska Native households suffered partner violence.

• 26.8% of women and 15.5% of men in white non-Hispanic households suffered partner violence

• 29.2% of women and 23.3% of men in black non-Hispanic households suffered partner violence.

• 20.5% of women and 15.5% of men in Hispanic households suffered partner violence.

So the most abused women are those in multiracial and American Indian relationships. Notice that the most abused men are men in Multiracial relationships and Black Men in relationships with Black Women.

RealityCheck: According to the NDVH 1 out 4 Women and 1 out of 9 men will suffer from domestic violence in their lifetimes. Dating and mating another race will not make you immune.

More on fat-struckness

The cartoon above appeared in the New York Post based on how Jessica Simpson and her new figure are being received by the mainstream (RE: mostly white male) American Press. Once again here are the Something Screwed Crews (SSC) valiant white knights taking a shot at one of their own females for failing to meet their "quality" standards. While I am sure the SSC is taking much delight in seeing a famous white female go through a personal hardship, imagine the outcry from the SSC if a black owned media sourced dogged on a black female in such a manner.

Now it is one thing for someone to say something on a small blog, but this is the NY Post. Many people will see this and the message will filter around especially to many little girls and the message will be clear. If you are fat, you are not worthy. Do whatever and they mean whatever you have to do to be thin. The sad part is, even though she is not as svelte as she used to be, Ms. Simpson is not as obese as the image above depicts.

RealityCheck: Superficiality is not the domain of any one race of men. If the SSC wants to convince themselves that one group of men operate at a higher level of thinking then that is their own folly.

Is one form of shallow better than the next?

Just a question: If black men are bad men because they are "color-struck" as Sara, Evia, and the Something Screwed Crew continue to insist, then are white men just as bad for being "fat-struck"?

If the Something Screwed crew is going to insist with derision on the old stereotype that black men only date fat white women that white men don't want, then doesn't this reflect negatively on white men, who are rejecting their own women the same way that these black women accuse black men of? Doesn't the white man fail to protect his woman when he forces her to exercise so much that her bones turn brittle in old age (osteoporosis)? Doesn't he not protect her when he makes her feel like eating so little that she even feels the need to vomit what little food she does ingest (Anorexia and Bulimia Nervosa)? Doesn't that make the black men who date these women in spite of their girth more valiant due to their ability to look past her body and see the real person? Yet another double-standard that the Something Screwed crew think that no one sees.

In actuality, the black man preferring fat white women thing is just something that some bitter white men created and is continuously restated by angry black women who don't see that this makes themselves look bad. Think about it. When a white man says it he is just trying to build himself up which makes sense, even though it is based somewhat on sour grapes. When a black women says it, she is practically saying "I suck so bad that men in my race would rather be with a fat women of another race than with me." So when these angry black women mock the supposed black man with his fat girl, she is really point out her own inadequacies to the world and she doesn't even realize it.

In actuality men that can only get fat white woman also can only get fat black women and vice versa. Men that date hot white women could get hot black women and vice versa. Look at the Canadian model that is banging Halle Berry. He could easily get a hot white woman. Look at Taye Diggs or Cuba Gooding Jr. Men of their caliber have their pick among women.

At the end of the day, the dating market is an efficient market in a free country. Since it takes two to tango, both people are getting what they asked for when they sign up to be with someone. Go with who makes you happy and leave everyone else alone.

How Many "Darrens" Do You Think There Are To Go Around?

I am starting to feel sorry for Evia and her followers. For all of their supposed education, they lack a basic understanding of how things actually work in reality. I will do my best to clue them in with this post.

In her latest treatise on bed wenching, Evia cautions women from marrying "beneath their level". Quite honestly, I don't begrudge them of that. Historically women do find the best providers as the most suitable mates. In today's world that often means having more money, more education, more societal power, etc. What Evia and her followers refuse to acknowledge is that men and especially powerful men with options in his choice of female historically look for the most loyal and compatible best looking female or the "prize" if you will. And that is men of ALL RACES, not just "brainwashed black men". Men generally don't care what women do for a living nor where they went to college as long as it doesn't affect them in the relationship.

What this means is that if you want to be picky about your mate that is your choice, but be aware that your potential mate is doing the same. Whereas Evia and her followers have narrowed their fields down to only the highest potential males, high potential males have a much wider field to choose from, as long as the woman is physically beautiful and compatible with his life. And here comes the painful truth for the Evia's of the world: most times these high potential men do not see plain and unattractive females, and especially plain and unattractive black females in that light.

Before people jump on me, I am not saying that there are no attractive black females. There are and I have met many of them. What I am saying is that if the Evia's of the world want to date the best men, then they are gonna to have to compete with ALL WOMEN, blondes, brunettes, red heads, Asians, Latinas, Arabs, Native American, Blacks, etc,. Each group has it's beauties, it's plains, and it's uglies. High powered men pick from the beauties of each group.

Try as hard as they may to redefine the paradigm, no amount of horseshit can cover the reality: men want attractive women above all. In American society, the definition of attractive usually does not include the Evias. You can see it for yourself in any beer commercial, or any boxing match (check out the ring girls) or any music video, you know what I am saying.

So assuming that this "Darren" (chuckle) exists , how many Darrens are there? How many rich powerful successful white men that cook, clean, makes great love and gives you good sex, take care of your kids whether they are his biologically or not, and treat you like a queen are out there looking for a plain to unattractive black woman to marry? Well in general White American men of all classes are not looking to marry any black women, as less than 1 out 400 have a black wife! This is why majority of these black women who follow Evia will "settle" for a less than white man, if they can get one at all. If you live outside of the US (like the UK) please spare me the international lesson on interracial relations. This article is about black American women and American men, since most of these women will not leave the country in order to find a spouse.

How desperate is Evia for a white man's attention? At the beginning of the her article she boasts about an ad that features a white male and black female. One simple point: THEY WERE SELLING SCHOOL SUPPLIES, THEY WERE NOT DATING NOR MATING AND THE AD DID NOT IMPLY THAT AS THEY WERE NOT EVEN TOUCHING! Please get a grip on reality woman. If anyone wants to argue the numbers, then be my guest, but they are what they are. As of 2006, even though there were 3 times as many black american women as there were Asian American women, there were 4.5 times as many Asian Women/White Man couples as there were Black Woman/White man couples. Or in words, white men choose 13.5 Asian women for marriage for every black women he selects. If you are an Evia follower, are you ready for the competiton with this sect? Are you ready to compete with White Women and Latinas? Are you ready to compete with other black women (like cheerleaders and models), with half the education and twice the physical beauty as yourself? Are you ready to compete with other black women with twice the education and twice the beauty as yourself?

Of course in the Evia's perfect world, they would all be married to black men who are rich. Three barriers prevent this. The first barrier is that the number of black men with a six figure salary is not that big. Of course the number of people in society at large that make the much is not very big either. The second barrier is that black men who do earn that much tend to stay single and enjoy the "perks" of being a sought after male. I recently read (not sure how accurate it is) somewhere that 76% of black men that earn over $100K are single. And the third barrier which generates the most fire, is that out of the black men earning over $100K that are married, 60% of them are married to non-black women. The remaining 40% are probably married to women that look more like Vanessa Williams (the former Miss America, and not the other actress with the same name).

This should be okay according to Evia, right? I mean if black women have the right to vet (hate that word) black men as women have always historically done, shouldn't black men have the same right to vet women? In Evia's view, of course not. In typical hypocritical fashion she writes this to the woman who sought her advice on her potential mate:

DROP HIM! He's NOT on your level. He won't be comfortable in your professional circle or your expanding social circle.

Now imagine if Evia and her followers heard two black men talking and one said this to the other:

Drop HER! She's not on your level. She won't be comfortable in your professional circle or your expanding social circle (with her nappy head and dark skin).

Evia and her followers would probably lapse into an anaphylactic seizure if they heard this. While Evia encourages black women to date white men, she demonizes black men who exercise their choice of mates as "racists". They are not preferences as she do not think black men are worthy enough to be able to have preferences. To her these black men are just as bad as any white racist for not considering plain and unattractive black women as mates. Hypocrisy at it's finest. I'll do more on that in another post sometime later.

I will sum up all this with two reality checks:

Reality Check 1: Nearly every little girl grows up dreaming of marrying the prince, or a doctor, or a lawyer, or the star athlete. Just remember that you are in competition with every other girl who is now a woman who is looking for the same thing. If you want to win, you better be able to bring it physically, and that's at a bare minimum. It doesn't matter how many or what type of degrees you have since little boys who grow into big men grow up daydreaming about cheerleaders, swimsuit models, Victoria Secrets, Playboy, etc. Go ahead and try and outthink the Paradigm and call such men "immature". It won't work. I'm not saying other things such as loyalty, intelligence, integrity, chemistry, personality, class, compatibility, etc are not important. They are, but without the preceding physical attraction, a man probably will not hang around a woman long enough to discover those other attributes.

Reality Check 2: My neverending disclaimer: There is nothing wrong with two people of any race (or any sex for that matter), if they wanna hook up or get married, it is not my business. It happens all the time. If Bjorn and Monique meet in the bookstore in the travel section and start talking and fall in love, more power to them. Just realize that they are the exception and not the rule. If you go sniffing around another race expecting them to love you more than your own loves you, don't be dissapointed when that doesn't happen. Don't be suprised if you end up like the image at the top of this post.