How Many "Darrens" Do You Think There Are To Go Around?

I am starting to feel sorry for Evia and her followers. For all of their supposed education, they lack a basic understanding of how things actually work in reality. I will do my best to clue them in with this post.

In her latest treatise on bed wenching, Evia cautions women from marrying "beneath their level". Quite honestly, I don't begrudge them of that. Historically women do find the best providers as the most suitable mates. In today's world that often means having more money, more education, more societal power, etc. What Evia and her followers refuse to acknowledge is that men and especially powerful men with options in his choice of female historically look for the most loyal and compatible best looking female or the "prize" if you will. And that is men of ALL RACES, not just "brainwashed black men". Men generally don't care what women do for a living nor where they went to college as long as it doesn't affect them in the relationship.

What this means is that if you want to be picky about your mate that is your choice, but be aware that your potential mate is doing the same. Whereas Evia and her followers have narrowed their fields down to only the highest potential males, high potential males have a much wider field to choose from, as long as the woman is physically beautiful and compatible with his life. And here comes the painful truth for the Evia's of the world: most times these high potential men do not see plain and unattractive females, and especially plain and unattractive black females in that light.

Before people jump on me, I am not saying that there are no attractive black females. There are and I have met many of them. What I am saying is that if the Evia's of the world want to date the best men, then they are gonna to have to compete with ALL WOMEN, blondes, brunettes, red heads, Asians, Latinas, Arabs, Native American, Blacks, etc,. Each group has it's beauties, it's plains, and it's uglies. High powered men pick from the beauties of each group.

Try as hard as they may to redefine the paradigm, no amount of horseshit can cover the reality: men want attractive women above all. In American society, the definition of attractive usually does not include the Evias. You can see it for yourself in any beer commercial, or any boxing match (check out the ring girls) or any music video, you know what I am saying.

So assuming that this "Darren" (chuckle) exists , how many Darrens are there? How many rich powerful successful white men that cook, clean, makes great love and gives you good sex, take care of your kids whether they are his biologically or not, and treat you like a queen are out there looking for a plain to unattractive black woman to marry? Well in general White American men of all classes are not looking to marry any black women, as less than 1 out 400 have a black wife! This is why majority of these black women who follow Evia will "settle" for a less than white man, if they can get one at all. If you live outside of the US (like the UK) please spare me the international lesson on interracial relations. This article is about black American women and American men, since most of these women will not leave the country in order to find a spouse.

How desperate is Evia for a white man's attention? At the beginning of the her article she boasts about an ad that features a white male and black female. One simple point: THEY WERE SELLING SCHOOL SUPPLIES, THEY WERE NOT DATING NOR MATING AND THE AD DID NOT IMPLY THAT AS THEY WERE NOT EVEN TOUCHING! Please get a grip on reality woman. If anyone wants to argue the numbers, then be my guest, but they are what they are. As of 2006, even though there were 3 times as many black american women as there were Asian American women, there were 4.5 times as many Asian Women/White Man couples as there were Black Woman/White man couples. Or in words, white men choose 13.5 Asian women for marriage for every black women he selects. If you are an Evia follower, are you ready for the competiton with this sect? Are you ready to compete with White Women and Latinas? Are you ready to compete with other black women (like cheerleaders and models), with half the education and twice the physical beauty as yourself? Are you ready to compete with other black women with twice the education and twice the beauty as yourself?

Of course in the Evia's perfect world, they would all be married to black men who are rich. Three barriers prevent this. The first barrier is that the number of black men with a six figure salary is not that big. Of course the number of people in society at large that make the much is not very big either. The second barrier is that black men who do earn that much tend to stay single and enjoy the "perks" of being a sought after male. I recently read (not sure how accurate it is) somewhere that 76% of black men that earn over $100K are single. And the third barrier which generates the most fire, is that out of the black men earning over $100K that are married, 60% of them are married to non-black women. The remaining 40% are probably married to women that look more like Vanessa Williams (the former Miss America, and not the other actress with the same name).

This should be okay according to Evia, right? I mean if black women have the right to vet (hate that word) black men as women have always historically done, shouldn't black men have the same right to vet women? In Evia's view, of course not. In typical hypocritical fashion she writes this to the woman who sought her advice on her potential mate:

DROP HIM! He's NOT on your level. He won't be comfortable in your professional circle or your expanding social circle.

Now imagine if Evia and her followers heard two black men talking and one said this to the other:

Drop HER! She's not on your level. She won't be comfortable in your professional circle or your expanding social circle (with her nappy head and dark skin).

Evia and her followers would probably lapse into an anaphylactic seizure if they heard this. While Evia encourages black women to date white men, she demonizes black men who exercise their choice of mates as "racists". They are not preferences as she do not think black men are worthy enough to be able to have preferences. To her these black men are just as bad as any white racist for not considering plain and unattractive black women as mates. Hypocrisy at it's finest. I'll do more on that in another post sometime later.

I will sum up all this with two reality checks:

Reality Check 1: Nearly every little girl grows up dreaming of marrying the prince, or a doctor, or a lawyer, or the star athlete. Just remember that you are in competition with every other girl who is now a woman who is looking for the same thing. If you want to win, you better be able to bring it physically, and that's at a bare minimum. It doesn't matter how many or what type of degrees you have since little boys who grow into big men grow up daydreaming about cheerleaders, swimsuit models, Victoria Secrets, Playboy, etc. Go ahead and try and outthink the Paradigm and call such men "immature". It won't work. I'm not saying other things such as loyalty, intelligence, integrity, chemistry, personality, class, compatibility, etc are not important. They are, but without the preceding physical attraction, a man probably will not hang around a woman long enough to discover those other attributes.

Reality Check 2: My neverending disclaimer: There is nothing wrong with two people of any race (or any sex for that matter), if they wanna hook up or get married, it is not my business. It happens all the time. If Bjorn and Monique meet in the bookstore in the travel section and start talking and fall in love, more power to them. Just realize that they are the exception and not the rule. If you go sniffing around another race expecting them to love you more than your own loves you, don't be dissapointed when that doesn't happen. Don't be suprised if you end up like the image at the top of this post.

Are Black Women Really That Far Ahead of Black Men?

According to Sara Taylor they are. Of course Sara has a self-centered and self-serving agenda, so allow me to seperate the fantasy from the reality.

RealityCheck : While there were more black women (747,000) 18-24 in college then black men (480,000) in the year 2000, there were also 36.6 million blacks in the United States.

Only 17.6 percent of black people over age 25 have a college degree. The vast majority of black men and women do not possess a college education. While I do think a college education is valuable, it is not the only measure of success. Also one must consider that degrees and schools vary greatly (a Harvard Business student will rarely be unemployed while a JuCo Cultural Studies major may struggle in the job hunt), so comparing raw numbers don't mean a whole lot.

In typical Sara fashion, she uses a few pictures to illustrate her self-serving point (black man in prison, black women graduating college), so I decided to show a more realistic cross section of black men in America. Whether it is a cab driver or millionaire athlete, a recent grad or a surgeon, these men are doing their best to represent themselves, their families, and black people in a country that does not wholly provide enough positive images of black men. Despite being a black woman with a black father and black brothers, cousins, and uncles, Sara continues to add to the onslaught of negativity towards black men.

Why is this even considered "a competition" in the first place? Can there really be a "winner" if a chasm exist between the sexes? Don't you find it interesting that Sara would use a small sample of black people to represent black women's "domination" over black men? Not that interesting really, actually it is quite simple:

Sara uses the number of women in college as an indication of ALL Black women shows you what Sara cares about: herself and people like herself and their ability to bed wench themselves out to white men who will have them. Sara could give a damn about black women in general even though she claims to be a black women advocate.

How could a black women claim to "be so far ahead" of anyone when 23.4% of all black women over the age of 18 live in poverty? I will let you read this article to see where black women stand on things such as incarceration, STD's, out-of-wedlock pregnancies, etc.

All these things matter not to Sara, what matters is trying to come up with stats to impress "da white man" and justify being his cum bucket. Instead of reaching back and developing ideas to help these troubled black women, Sara instead lashes out at successful black men for failing to uplift their communities. While this lashing out is not without merit, her failure to apply the same standards to black women who fail to uplift the community is extremely hypocritical. Sara would be quick to demean a successful black man who moved away from the black community and call him names such as "coonified" and "sellout" and "white man's slave". However her solution to black women is to do the same: cozy up to da white man (who in reality gives less a damn about black women than anyone else as they are always his last choice of mate - but more on that in another post).

Like I always said, who people date and mate with is their own personal business, I could care less. Please cut the bullshit and do it on your own accord and stop pretending you have some higher purpose.