Double Standard On Blogspot?

There were two sites on Blogspot one named White Women Suck and the other Black Women Suck. As of last week, the Black Women site was blocked by blogspot, yet the White Women site remains open. Why? Of course I find the idea and content of both of these sites highly objectionable, so please don't write me pretending that I am for one site over the other. I am not. What I want to know is why the double standard? If one site is objectionable enough to close then why not the other? Or maybe enough people have not flagged the White Women Suck blog. If not I encourage you to do so by clicking here.

For those of you wondering why do I care, I am reminded of what is on the Holocaust Museum in DC:

Thou shalt not be a victim. Thou shalt not be a perpetrator. Above all, thou shalt not be a bystander.

If you are reading this and agree please click here and not be a bystander.

Difference Between Preference and Discrimination

In Evia's latest post she continues to foolishly compare actual racial discrimination with someone's individual dating preferences. I will do my best to shed some light on this. First I will qoute you what she said

I continue to get notes from black men arguing that they have the "right" to prefer lighter-whiter skin shades in women, but they do not want to accept that they are upholding the white racist construct that says that light/white skin people are superior, more attractive, more intelligent and more desirable to be around than darker skinned people. Why then do these same men get so furious when whites discriminate against them in hiring, police brutality, driving while black,--on the basis of their darker skin shades. It's all about skin shade. It's the SAME reason for that white person's discrimination.

I'll address the first part first. You notice that she never applies this logic to any other pairing other than Black Men/White Women. There are more White Man/Asian Women Couples than there are Black Men /White Woman couples and Asian Men/White Women couples combined. Are White Men guilty of creating a construct of Yellow supremacy? And unless if these same Black Men sexually crave White Men, then how does the Black Man/White Woman pairing uphold White Supremacy? It doesn't. Finally why doesn't Evia take the glass is half-full approach and view it the other way: White Women who date Black Men are rejecting the notion of White Supremacy. Of course this would be giving White Women credit for something good and her platform cannot possibly allow that.

The only real problem that Evia has with this pairing is that it doesn't favor Evia.

I know Black men who prefer Non-Black Women, Black men who prefer light-skinned Black women, Black Men who prefer Dark Skinned Women, and Black men who prefer men. Why is one set of these men entitled to their preferences and the others are not? What the Evias of the world don't get is that the biggest turnoff is not their looks, but it is the self-centered entitlement that states "like me or there must be something severely mentally wrong with you".

As for the second part, she compares police brutality to someone not wanting to date you on Saturday night. Is this woman serious? For those of you have not figured this out let me tell you the critical difference: When the police beats Leroy, there is a victim involved. When Leroy does not want to go out with Tamika, Tamika is not a victim, regardless of the reason that Leroy does not want to go out with her. Got it. Leroy has constitutional rights (to due process, to avoid cruel and unusual punishment, etc) When the police beat him up, they deprive him of those rights. Tamika has no moral, constitutional or legal rights to Leroy's affection. Fittingly we have laws on the books against the police beating Leroy up and none for Leroy not asking for Tamika's phone number.

As for hiring it is a little trickier because an employer that does not want to hire blacks could find a number of reasons not to and it is harder to prove discrimination. What happens when a employer does discriminate? The company loses because that employer is limiting the company's employee pool from the best of everybody to only one group (whites). The competent white workers lose because they have to work harder to compensate for the incompetent whites that were hired in place of competent blacks. The people who invest in the company loses because the incompetent whites are holding the company back and society loses because incompetent people are working while competent people are not. Hence we have laws against it.

On the other hand if Leroy is dating Molly while Tamika sits at home, nothing is lost except to the parties involved. If Tamika is "all that" then she will find somebody else and Leroy will miss out. If not, then she deserves to be at home alone. Leroy and Molly have each other and if that makes them happy, we live in a free society that allows us to pursue that happiness. Why does anyone have a problem with that?

The difference between true racial discrimination and personal preference in a free society is that the former attempts to and has the ability to forcibly interfere with the latter. The police or the people hiring have power over Leroy. Tamika has free will where it pertains to Leroy (the choice to obsess over him or not is hers).

And why does Evia care anyway? Isn't she supposed to be a BW-IR blogger. She contradicts herself in her own post. She writes:

Let me make myself clear AGAIN-LOL! I'm not interested in who AA males date or marry because...

then a few paragraphs later she is writing:

BE HONEST: HOW MANY AA MEN DO YOU KNOW WHO'D LOVE TO DATE A WOMAN WITH THIS WOMAN'S COMPLEXION? Hmmmm. I can hear the silence. LOL!

I thought she didn't care. In fact I could have qouted the entire second portion which was a study done on colorism of college students at some midwestern college. Why would she or her followers truly care what Black men do and who they prefer?

Click here for a very insightful explanation.

Violence Against Women: Harmful to All

As predicted, you knew that the Something Screwed Crew (SSC) would use the Chris Brown/Rhianna situation to further their agenda. As if this "proves" white men are better at taking care of women. If you want to believe that then fine. I posted the above video to give you an alternative view. And in many ways the video above is worse. Why? Chris Brown is only a 19-20 year old immature young adult. The "Officer" is a 31 year old professional who should know better. I am not advocating that a 31 year old man should ever beat up a 15 year old girl, but if one does, one should make sure that a camera is not on. And this guy was supposed to be watching the public? Yikes.

We do not have all of the details but one thing I will agree with is that Chris Brown should have been better than to even let it come to the point where we are talking about this. I have had a woman or two trigger my fight/flight response and I always take flight.

The SSC always lament at how white women supposedly receive a superior level of protection from their men. The stats that I got from the National Domestic Violence Hotline website paints a different picture:

• 43% of women and 26% of men in multiracial non-Hispanic households suffered partner violence.

• 39% of women and 18.6% of men in American Indian/Alaska Native households suffered partner violence.

• 26.8% of women and 15.5% of men in white non-Hispanic households suffered partner violence

• 29.2% of women and 23.3% of men in black non-Hispanic households suffered partner violence.

• 20.5% of women and 15.5% of men in Hispanic households suffered partner violence.

So the most abused women are those in multiracial and American Indian relationships. Notice that the most abused men are men in Multiracial relationships and Black Men in relationships with Black Women.

RealityCheck: According to the NDVH 1 out 4 Women and 1 out of 9 men will suffer from domestic violence in their lifetimes. Dating and mating another race will not make you immune.

More on fat-struckness

The cartoon above appeared in the New York Post based on how Jessica Simpson and her new figure are being received by the mainstream (RE: mostly white male) American Press. Once again here are the Something Screwed Crews (SSC) valiant white knights taking a shot at one of their own females for failing to meet their "quality" standards. While I am sure the SSC is taking much delight in seeing a famous white female go through a personal hardship, imagine the outcry from the SSC if a black owned media sourced dogged on a black female in such a manner.

Now it is one thing for someone to say something on a small blog, but this is the NY Post. Many people will see this and the message will filter around especially to many little girls and the message will be clear. If you are fat, you are not worthy. Do whatever and they mean whatever you have to do to be thin. The sad part is, even though she is not as svelte as she used to be, Ms. Simpson is not as obese as the image above depicts.

RealityCheck: Superficiality is not the domain of any one race of men. If the SSC wants to convince themselves that one group of men operate at a higher level of thinking then that is their own folly.

Is one form of shallow better than the next?

Just a question: If black men are bad men because they are "color-struck" as Sara, Evia, and the Something Screwed Crew continue to insist, then are white men just as bad for being "fat-struck"?

If the Something Screwed crew is going to insist with derision on the old stereotype that black men only date fat white women that white men don't want, then doesn't this reflect negatively on white men, who are rejecting their own women the same way that these black women accuse black men of? Doesn't the white man fail to protect his woman when he forces her to exercise so much that her bones turn brittle in old age (osteoporosis)? Doesn't he not protect her when he makes her feel like eating so little that she even feels the need to vomit what little food she does ingest (Anorexia and Bulimia Nervosa)? Doesn't that make the black men who date these women in spite of their girth more valiant due to their ability to look past her body and see the real person? Yet another double-standard that the Something Screwed crew think that no one sees.

In actuality, the black man preferring fat white women thing is just something that some bitter white men created and is continuously restated by angry black women who don't see that this makes themselves look bad. Think about it. When a white man says it he is just trying to build himself up which makes sense, even though it is based somewhat on sour grapes. When a black women says it, she is practically saying "I suck so bad that men in my race would rather be with a fat women of another race than with me." So when these angry black women mock the supposed black man with his fat girl, she is really point out her own inadequacies to the world and she doesn't even realize it.

In actuality men that can only get fat white woman also can only get fat black women and vice versa. Men that date hot white women could get hot black women and vice versa. Look at the Canadian model that is banging Halle Berry. He could easily get a hot white woman. Look at Taye Diggs or Cuba Gooding Jr. Men of their caliber have their pick among women.

At the end of the day, the dating market is an efficient market in a free country. Since it takes two to tango, both people are getting what they asked for when they sign up to be with someone. Go with who makes you happy and leave everyone else alone.

How Many "Darrens" Do You Think There Are To Go Around?

I am starting to feel sorry for Evia and her followers. For all of their supposed education, they lack a basic understanding of how things actually work in reality. I will do my best to clue them in with this post.

In her latest treatise on bed wenching, Evia cautions women from marrying "beneath their level". Quite honestly, I don't begrudge them of that. Historically women do find the best providers as the most suitable mates. In today's world that often means having more money, more education, more societal power, etc. What Evia and her followers refuse to acknowledge is that men and especially powerful men with options in his choice of female historically look for the most loyal and compatible best looking female or the "prize" if you will. And that is men of ALL RACES, not just "brainwashed black men". Men generally don't care what women do for a living nor where they went to college as long as it doesn't affect them in the relationship.

What this means is that if you want to be picky about your mate that is your choice, but be aware that your potential mate is doing the same. Whereas Evia and her followers have narrowed their fields down to only the highest potential males, high potential males have a much wider field to choose from, as long as the woman is physically beautiful and compatible with his life. And here comes the painful truth for the Evia's of the world: most times these high potential men do not see plain and unattractive females, and especially plain and unattractive black females in that light.

Before people jump on me, I am not saying that there are no attractive black females. There are and I have met many of them. What I am saying is that if the Evia's of the world want to date the best men, then they are gonna to have to compete with ALL WOMEN, blondes, brunettes, red heads, Asians, Latinas, Arabs, Native American, Blacks, etc,. Each group has it's beauties, it's plains, and it's uglies. High powered men pick from the beauties of each group.

Try as hard as they may to redefine the paradigm, no amount of horseshit can cover the reality: men want attractive women above all. In American society, the definition of attractive usually does not include the Evias. You can see it for yourself in any beer commercial, or any boxing match (check out the ring girls) or any music video, you know what I am saying.

So assuming that this "Darren" (chuckle) exists , how many Darrens are there? How many rich powerful successful white men that cook, clean, makes great love and gives you good sex, take care of your kids whether they are his biologically or not, and treat you like a queen are out there looking for a plain to unattractive black woman to marry? Well in general White American men of all classes are not looking to marry any black women, as less than 1 out 400 have a black wife! This is why majority of these black women who follow Evia will "settle" for a less than white man, if they can get one at all. If you live outside of the US (like the UK) please spare me the international lesson on interracial relations. This article is about black American women and American men, since most of these women will not leave the country in order to find a spouse.

How desperate is Evia for a white man's attention? At the beginning of the her article she boasts about an ad that features a white male and black female. One simple point: THEY WERE SELLING SCHOOL SUPPLIES, THEY WERE NOT DATING NOR MATING AND THE AD DID NOT IMPLY THAT AS THEY WERE NOT EVEN TOUCHING! Please get a grip on reality woman. If anyone wants to argue the numbers, then be my guest, but they are what they are. As of 2006, even though there were 3 times as many black american women as there were Asian American women, there were 4.5 times as many Asian Women/White Man couples as there were Black Woman/White man couples. Or in words, white men choose 13.5 Asian women for marriage for every black women he selects. If you are an Evia follower, are you ready for the competiton with this sect? Are you ready to compete with White Women and Latinas? Are you ready to compete with other black women (like cheerleaders and models), with half the education and twice the physical beauty as yourself? Are you ready to compete with other black women with twice the education and twice the beauty as yourself?

Of course in the Evia's perfect world, they would all be married to black men who are rich. Three barriers prevent this. The first barrier is that the number of black men with a six figure salary is not that big. Of course the number of people in society at large that make the much is not very big either. The second barrier is that black men who do earn that much tend to stay single and enjoy the "perks" of being a sought after male. I recently read (not sure how accurate it is) somewhere that 76% of black men that earn over $100K are single. And the third barrier which generates the most fire, is that out of the black men earning over $100K that are married, 60% of them are married to non-black women. The remaining 40% are probably married to women that look more like Vanessa Williams (the former Miss America, and not the other actress with the same name).

This should be okay according to Evia, right? I mean if black women have the right to vet (hate that word) black men as women have always historically done, shouldn't black men have the same right to vet women? In Evia's view, of course not. In typical hypocritical fashion she writes this to the woman who sought her advice on her potential mate:

DROP HIM! He's NOT on your level. He won't be comfortable in your professional circle or your expanding social circle.

Now imagine if Evia and her followers heard two black men talking and one said this to the other:

Drop HER! She's not on your level. She won't be comfortable in your professional circle or your expanding social circle (with her nappy head and dark skin).

Evia and her followers would probably lapse into an anaphylactic seizure if they heard this. While Evia encourages black women to date white men, she demonizes black men who exercise their choice of mates as "racists". They are not preferences as she do not think black men are worthy enough to be able to have preferences. To her these black men are just as bad as any white racist for not considering plain and unattractive black women as mates. Hypocrisy at it's finest. I'll do more on that in another post sometime later.

I will sum up all this with two reality checks:

Reality Check 1: Nearly every little girl grows up dreaming of marrying the prince, or a doctor, or a lawyer, or the star athlete. Just remember that you are in competition with every other girl who is now a woman who is looking for the same thing. If you want to win, you better be able to bring it physically, and that's at a bare minimum. It doesn't matter how many or what type of degrees you have since little boys who grow into big men grow up daydreaming about cheerleaders, swimsuit models, Victoria Secrets, Playboy, etc. Go ahead and try and outthink the Paradigm and call such men "immature". It won't work. I'm not saying other things such as loyalty, intelligence, integrity, chemistry, personality, class, compatibility, etc are not important. They are, but without the preceding physical attraction, a man probably will not hang around a woman long enough to discover those other attributes.

Reality Check 2: My neverending disclaimer: There is nothing wrong with two people of any race (or any sex for that matter), if they wanna hook up or get married, it is not my business. It happens all the time. If Bjorn and Monique meet in the bookstore in the travel section and start talking and fall in love, more power to them. Just realize that they are the exception and not the rule. If you go sniffing around another race expecting them to love you more than your own loves you, don't be dissapointed when that doesn't happen. Don't be suprised if you end up like the image at the top of this post.

Are Black Women Really That Far Ahead of Black Men?

According to Sara Taylor they are. Of course Sara has a self-centered and self-serving agenda, so allow me to seperate the fantasy from the reality.

RealityCheck : While there were more black women (747,000) 18-24 in college then black men (480,000) in the year 2000, there were also 36.6 million blacks in the United States.

Only 17.6 percent of black people over age 25 have a college degree. The vast majority of black men and women do not possess a college education. While I do think a college education is valuable, it is not the only measure of success. Also one must consider that degrees and schools vary greatly (a Harvard Business student will rarely be unemployed while a JuCo Cultural Studies major may struggle in the job hunt), so comparing raw numbers don't mean a whole lot.

In typical Sara fashion, she uses a few pictures to illustrate her self-serving point (black man in prison, black women graduating college), so I decided to show a more realistic cross section of black men in America. Whether it is a cab driver or millionaire athlete, a recent grad or a surgeon, these men are doing their best to represent themselves, their families, and black people in a country that does not wholly provide enough positive images of black men. Despite being a black woman with a black father and black brothers, cousins, and uncles, Sara continues to add to the onslaught of negativity towards black men.

Why is this even considered "a competition" in the first place? Can there really be a "winner" if a chasm exist between the sexes? Don't you find it interesting that Sara would use a small sample of black people to represent black women's "domination" over black men? Not that interesting really, actually it is quite simple:

Sara uses the number of women in college as an indication of ALL Black women shows you what Sara cares about: herself and people like herself and their ability to bed wench themselves out to white men who will have them. Sara could give a damn about black women in general even though she claims to be a black women advocate.

How could a black women claim to "be so far ahead" of anyone when 23.4% of all black women over the age of 18 live in poverty? I will let you read this article to see where black women stand on things such as incarceration, STD's, out-of-wedlock pregnancies, etc.

All these things matter not to Sara, what matters is trying to come up with stats to impress "da white man" and justify being his cum bucket. Instead of reaching back and developing ideas to help these troubled black women, Sara instead lashes out at successful black men for failing to uplift their communities. While this lashing out is not without merit, her failure to apply the same standards to black women who fail to uplift the community is extremely hypocritical. Sara would be quick to demean a successful black man who moved away from the black community and call him names such as "coonified" and "sellout" and "white man's slave". However her solution to black women is to do the same: cozy up to da white man (who in reality gives less a damn about black women than anyone else as they are always his last choice of mate - but more on that in another post).

Like I always said, who people date and mate with is their own personal business, I could care less. Please cut the bullshit and do it on your own accord and stop pretending you have some higher purpose.