My Thoughts on White Men and how it relates to SSC

I have never ever really written about White Men because unlike some (far too many) in the Black Blogosphere, I do not endow unlimited powers to them. Of course there are unquestioned racial priviledge's that come with being a White man in America. However, in the real world where it counts, I actually have White male friends and acquaintances in my personal life. I can assure you that life for them is not as simple as snapping their fingers and watching the world fall to their feet. I feel compelled to address some issues that keep recurring.

1. White men (like all people) have their own racial misgivings just like everyone else. Also, they are not a monolithic group anymore than Black people are. Some are more racist than others and some hide it better than others. Some are nicer than others.

I don't hate white men nor do I blame the ones alive today for things that happened before they were born. Like I said there are good and bad people, and the good are not responsible for the evil and the sins of the bad. That is not to say that discrimination and racism does not exist or that people should ignore any genuine social ill (newsflash: Black women's inability to land the type of men that they desire is not a social ill, it is a personal dilemna. It is no more a social ill than anyone else who fails to do the same for whatever reason).

As much as the Something Screwed Crew (SSC) tries to flaunt White men in front of me, white men aren't really holding me back from anything that I want to accomplish. I wanted to go to college I went to college (got into my first choice - got into all that I applied to for that matter.). I wanted to travel, I traveled. I wanted to open my own business I opened it. When I wanted to close it, I closed it. I wanted a pretty girlfriend that loves and respects me and shares common interests and I got that. (She looks like a younger, Filipina version of CNN newswoman Robin Meade). I don't think White men are going to stop me from do anything I want to do in the future (more travel, start a family, start a new business, etc).

Of course tomorrow on my way to pick up milk I could get busted over the head and falsely arrested by a white police officer and then all of those who live in awe of the almighty white boogeyman can say "I told you so". I also could get jumped by a street gang of black thugs, which sadly, is more likely than getting busted over the head by a white cop. I have no choice but to deal with either of those events when they come, if they ever come and not waste my time pretending like the pro-Black phonies, that an all Black world would make things perfect.

2. The SSC likes to keep stating that it is "a white man's world" or "white men own everything", which is true to some extent but not complete. They mostly say this in a vain attempt to make Black men feel the same level of inferiorty that they experience in the presence of White women. They ignore that wealth and power is not equally distributed among White men. Most sociological surveys state that the richest 10% own 80% of the wealth and the poorest 90% own 20%, which means a whole lot of broke White men. In my life for various reasons (sometimes work related, sometimes social) I have been around Whites who own lots of stuff and around those who don't own anything. There are far more of the latter. To hear the SSC, every White man is a CEO of major company with a Yacht and lives on a multi-acre estate.

At the end of 2008, there were only 2.5 millionaires out of over 300 million people in the United States (of course, not all of them White or men). Newsflash to the angry SSC: why do you think that White women and any non-white women go after Black men with money? Simple, supply and demand. There are fewer men with money than there are women that want them. It really is that simple. What truly bothers the SSC is that men with money (regardless of race) tend not to choose them (unless if they are ultrafine). Why? If it were merely White Supremacy, then how does that explain Latinas and Asian women not having any trouble despite not being pure blood aryans?

3. When the SSC does get a White men he tends to fall into one of the following 4 categories:

1) Old - I would speculate that most of the white men I see with Black women are White men who have already had their first families and white kids with white wives and he is now divorced or widowed and is now getting with a Black women way past the prime years of his life.

2) Creepy - These are the "chocolate fantasy" guys. Of all the white men interested in Black women, they are the ones with the most money and they need it too. These men would have trouble attracting any woman without it.

3) Wiggers - This is self-explantory. White guy thinks that "Nubian Princess" will give him street cred.

4) Mild Washout - Not a complete failure, but not the smashing success either. These are the types of guys that work in a mailroom or delivers pizza or drives a bus. They often work multiple low-level jobs at the same time when the work is available. A black man on the same level of employment would be no good, but these white men get a pass. And these same women are the ones who will cry up and down about "colorism". But it only applies when they see a man they want.

Of course these groupings are not indicative of all Black women/White men couples as there are many who do not fit this mold.

The funny (in an ironic sense) thing about all four categories is that I always end up getting my ass kissed by the male while the female looks on with a disconcerted expression when I meet one of these couples. It is the almost as if the men go out of their way to prove that they are "down" or okay with Black men and they "understand" me just because they are with a Black woman. This is a far far cry from the "power couples" that Black women threaten Black men with when they claim they are going to hook up with White men.

You hear White men and Black women proclaim that Black men only get the white women that white men don't want (more on that in the next thought) Is it obvious who gets the White men that White women don't want? Who gets the Black women that Black men don't want?

If Black men are "damaged" or "trying to prove something" when they get with White women, then White men must be doing the same when they try to get with Asian women. White men will select 11-12 Asian women for every Black women he selects. The vicious irony in the SSC is that they hold the White man up as the ulitmate prize, yet when he chooses non-white women he chooses Black women dead last. If Black women insist that White men are the ulitmate prize and could have anything he wants and he doesn't want you, then why the hell would anyone else? Black women are arguing against themselves.

4. White men and Black women like to play up the stereotype that Black men can only get fat white women or women that white men don't want anymore. It's like both White men and Black women think if they can say it over and over and over again everyone will believe it is true. Mostly, this is done to shame White women and Black men. I have pointed this out in the past, but it has fallen on deaf ears, I can understand White men playing up the stereotype, but why do Black women play it up? Black women who parrot the stereotype are basically confessing to the world "Black men would rather be with a fat white woman over me, therefore you know I must really suck as a woman." Black women foolishly arguing against herself once again.

On the occassions I have seen Black men with fat/busted up white women often times the Black man was no prize himself. In addition since 80% of Black women are overweight or obese, chances are a Black man with an overweight white woman would have only ended up with a overweight Black woman if he "kept it real". When I brought up the Black women being overweight stat on another blog, a highly defensive Black woman retorted "well 60% of White women are overweight". She proved my point without realizing it. If 60% of White women are overweight and only a small percentage (somewhere around 1-2%) of White women overall date/cohabit/marry Black men, then who do you think is ending up with the rest of these overweight women that White men supposedly don't want? Or are we supposed to believe that every White man is getting a Victoria Secrets model with a masters degree (of course I realize that White men would gladly take a Victoria Secrets model without the masters degree, I just put that in their because too Black women can't get it through their heads that their education is not a primary tool of attraction for a man. I didn't say it was unimportant, I said it wasn't primary. Big difference).

Also as for White men not wanting or accepting White women that Black men have been with look no further than their very own postergirl, Lisa Lampanelli. Lisa is a comedian who made these comments

my problem is, I can’t get a good-looking white guy anymore, I just don’t have the looks to get that. I can get hot blacks, but also blacks are now starting to get uppity and go for the skinny white ones and the Asians, which is very offensive to me that they don’t stick with their roots — the chubby white girl!

The Black men only get fat contigent lauded these comments and held them as "proof" of their viewpoint. They ignore me when I tell them that Ms. Lampanelli, is currently engaged to a White man.

So can we finally cut the nonsense? From Lisa Lampanelli to Kim Kardashian, if these women would avail themselves sexually to White men, their would be a whole line of them waiting. There is no such thing as a woman with a vagina that "all" white men don't want. Sure some White men have standards as do some Black men, but not all.

Some White men can't control themselves around bad pussy, just like some of their Black male counterparts. The SSC thinks this is trait that is only endemic to Black men, but it isn't. From Bill Clinton (the most powerful man in the world at the time and he had a fat chick and many busted up chicks) to John Edwards to Eliot Spitzer to Jesse James (who married a porn star before this current debacle). Not making excuses for Black men who make bad choices (Kobe, Tiger, etc), just pointing out that it is an interpersonal issue more than anything related to these mens race.

There you have it. Beyond personal interactions and these bloggings, I don't spend a lot of time thinking about what White men are doing. Fortunately for me, I don't have an inferiority complex to them the way the SSC seemingly does towards other women and especially White women. White men have their lives and I have mines and I try to live my own.