I have not posted in a while for a reason. I just don't care as much anymore. Don't get me wrong I have plenty of material and I always come to my computer with ideas. When I sit down, I just find other things to do that I enjoy more.
I am not going away. I will post when the moment strikes and I will still follow the other blogs I have been following. Shout outs to Una, Rocky, Queens, and Raina and others.
I am tired of the same old same old. I try to stick to the issues (admittely don't always succeed)and all I get greeted with is nastiness, the same old guilting and shaming tactics, and accusations of wanting White women and hating Black women. As if I have something to gain for Black women suffering. Of course "suffering" to them means not being wanted by certain men (i.e. wealthy men), not actual suffering like getting stoned to death for being raped or getting their clitorises cut off.
I don't hate the Something Screwed Crew (SSC), in fact I truly pity them and I cringe for those sane and mentally balanced Black women (shout outs to mskitty and MrsRony) like I cringe for myself when people use negative images of Black men to represent me. After all what group of women on this planet chase after men? Is there any other group of women on this planet so overly reliant on guilt and shame and emotional blackmail as these women are? Why don't they realize that other races of women get married because they offer men QUALITY and not hide behind history or play the race or colorism card as the SSC is quick to do when they don't get their way. And when I say quality, I mean quality that men are looking for, not self-imposed ideas that they think they can shove down men's throats in the face of centuries of human conditioning.
The SSC loves their freedom. They love the fact that they can go to universities, they can open businesses, they can buy homes, they can date and marry whoever they want, etc. However, the SSC can't stand that Black men have the same freedom. For some reason they are under the impression that the Civil Rights Movement was designed to transfer control of Black men lives from White male hands to Black Women hands.
In addition to intolerance for Black men's freedom, the SSC cannot tolerate personal responsibility. They go around declaring how independant they are and when people leave them to their independance they get nasty. They want the freedom to sleep with who they want, but when they get burned by that bad decision and end up with and STD or unwanted kids it is not their fault. It is all Black men's fault.
They blame Black men like me for not lecturing other Black men who do not take care of their kids. What the fuck I am supposed to say to discourage a man who you keep offering up easy pussy to? These women keep rewarding these bad men and then only after the bad men reveal that general truth that bad men don't usually make very good fathers then and only then they lash out. It never occurs to them to keep their legs closed to bad men or at the very least, use some form of birth control. Like animals they can't even put on a fucking condom, yet I am supposed to do something about these women and their plight?
I myself purposely do not have any kids. I will not have any until I get married. And before you mean and nasty people who read this try to insult me, I have had my chances. Not to get overly graphic, but once I was without a condom and a woman insisted that I put it in anyway. While there may be no better feeling than an uncovered penis inside a vagina, I was so petrified at the thought of having a kid like that I easily declined. That is the extent of my control. I have no interest in taking care of anyone else's bastard(s). I did not spend all these years exercising caution and self control to suffer the consequences of someone else's mistake. I have no interest in lecturing other grown ass men on how to live, especially when these grown ass men are going to be rewarded with poontang by equally irresponsible, retarded ass women.
If they want to blame Black men for everything then so be it. If they want to believe that they are the ultimate victims in the history of the universe, then so be it. If they want to believe that White men are fueling up buses getting ready to send those buses to Black neighborhoods to gather up all the Black women they can love, then let them belive that. If they want to continue to ignore the extreme message that the 70% single rate should be screaming at them, then that is their choice. If they want to believe that my unwillingess to kiss their ass and completely subjugate my will to their desires means that I must hate all Black women and therefore "crave" White women then let them. A side note, notice that is always stated as a "craving" for White women. Why can't I ever "crave" Asian women or Latina women or other women? Perhaps they are revealing more about where they are insecure than they intend to. Whatever folly they choose to believe will be to their own detriment, and not mines.
As for me, I have built my life to the point where I have options, professionally and personally. My life is not perfect, but I am going strong in these tough economic times. I feel I could do better, and to do so I am going to focus my main efforts on what I need to the most: How to improve myself. Something the SSC should do also, but I doubt that they will.
5 comments:
Hi Bro,
I truly understand how you feel. I've felt it too and I don't even have a blog lol
I guess at some point we'll all move on and get on with the business of real life. We're here first and formost because we have been outraged by the "lies and distortions" perpetuated by the SSC about Black men.
We, e.g. Rocky, Mr Laurelton and yourself, are clearly very different in our emphasis of certain issues in defence of the Black male image, and just plain simple facts (which are often backed up by stats)but you are nevertheless united in 'fighting the good fight'.
I for one appreciate your efforts as it has allowed people like myself to better formulate views on the matter when I've sought to put them forward.
So, anyway, yeah, real life will get us in the end just as it will the SSC.
But don't fret, Bro. take as long as is necessary to put your case but appreciate (as of now lol) that once you put it (over and over again) that you'll simply put it to rest along with all the other cases at 'rest'.
I hope once you do you'll realise you've contributed greatly to the development of a defence against a pseudo-movement that the (white) mass media will surely one day adopt as a pet project. When it does, we'll be ready ...thanks to brothers like yourself!
Peace
Menelik Charles
Truth what you are feeling and thinking is the same way ive felt for a good while now. you just to a point where you get so sick of all the negativity. that why i dont really comment on queens blog like i used to because I the comments on their have gotten so horrible on there its disturbing. You cant even have decent rational coversation with these so called educated indviduals without them being so nasty acting. you just get tired of trying to talk any sense into them and just want them to find out the hard way. i still plan on talking about issues i feel are interesting and need to be addressed but still i dont like ugly and dont need it.
I know what you are talking about as well.
I have to say I have loved your posts and your comments because they are so rational and unemotional in comparison to the deranged hatred so evident in everything they say.
But you and Raina are right, it is very very tiring dealing with such horrible and negative people.
oops, i forgot to log on ... that anon post was me - una
Una said:
@oops, i forgot to log on ... that anon post was me - una@.
Menelik says:
now your even forgetting to log on...its not looking good bro lol
Una said:
"...it is very very tiring dealing with such horrible and negative people".
Menelik says:
it sure is, and if one hangs around too long one unwittingly begins to integrate their nastiness into one's own mental/spritual space.
One of the SSC problems is that they're strangulated Black-male supremacists...yes they are lol. They've simply transferred their racial loyalties over to white men in the hope of avenging their percieved rejection by Black men.
They will never let go of Black men - not even when they've dated, married and/or mated with white men.
What a dreadful way to treat one's 1st love, is what I say!
Anyway, one day WE WILL LET GO and the very idea terrifies the SSC who'll have to console themselves with racially harassing imaginary Black men instead of those who take them to task on the internet.
Stay cool, Una!
Menelik Charles
London England
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