Something Screwed

Why Certain Black Women Hate Nerdy Black Men

2010-08-09T19:04:00.000-07:00

A certain angry negress is at again. I'll give my take on why she and women like her who claim not to care about "nerdy Black men", yet are hell bent on dictating to them what they do, how they do it and who they do it with. Before I begin, here is an article that illustrates some of the points I will touch on. It can be found here

http://www.thefighting44s.com/archives/2007/08/10/browns-wall-of-shame-in-inter-racial-dating/

Interracial Dating Angers Many Black Women at Brown U.

By Ben Gose
From the issue dated May 10, 1996

Lauren Handelsman, a white sophomore at Brown University, didn’t expect many problems when she began dating a black student in the fall of 1994.

“We’re at Brown,” she remembers telling Thabiti Brown, her boyfriend, who is also a sophomore, as their friendship grew serious. “People are really open-minded here. People are nice here.”

“Well,” she says now, “I guess not.”

She had expected a few racist asides when they walked off-campus in Providence holding hands, or maybe some awkward small talk at mostly white parties.

Instead, the most flak has come from black women who think that black men who date non-black women are abandoning their race, Ms. Handelsman says. Many of them glare when she and Mr. Brown walk around the campus, she says. Friends tell her that some black women criticize her behind her back.

Last October, in an incident that still has students talking, seven black women got personal in their crusade against black-white romance.

The women, who had gathered in the dormitory room of Felicia Carmen Lyde, a sophomore, scrawled “Wall of Shame” on a wall with an erasable blue marker. They then wrote the names of famous black men who either date or have married white women, according to Ms. Lyde.

Then, on the door of Ms. Lyde’s room, the women made a second list, with about a dozen names of black men on the campus who, they said, date white women — including Thabiti Brown and, simply, “the basketball team.”

Ms. Lyde lives on the busy first floor of Harambee House, a dormitory for students who are interested in African-American culture. News of the “Wall of Shame” circulated quickly, setting off fierce arguments within the black community at Brown. Men on the list were hurt, as were children of mixed-race marriages. Most Brown students, however, did not learn about it until Michael Maimon, a white columnist at The Brown Daily Herald, the student newspaper, wrote about it in January.

The black women who created the list say it was the result of frustration that has been building for a long time. Black men at Brown have simply rejected them, they say.

“People come up to me and say, ‘Why did you do it? Didn’t you know it would hurt people’s feelings?’” says Ms. Lyde.

“Didn’t they know that my feelings have been hurt all along?”

When Ms. Handelsman heard about the list from a friend, she stayed up all night crying. “I was very upset, offended, hurt — just angry in general,” she says.

On one level, the controversy involving interracial dating at Brown is simply the most intimate version of a broader campus debate involving race and ethnicity. At many colleges, the need for racial solidarity runs up against the ideal of race-blindness in such issues as housing and special orientation programs for minority students.

But the dating issue is also a question of demographics. At Brown, black women outnumber black men 211 to 154. The discrepancy is even wider nationally. About 900,000 black women were enrolled in undergraduate and graduate programs at colleges and universities in 1994, compared with 550,000 black men, according to the U.S. Department of Education.

It makes things worse, says Leslie Abrams, a black junior at Brown, when “the black men who are here don’t want to have anything to do with you.” She says she was not involved in the “Wall of Shame” but sympathizes with those who created it.

Some black women at Brown believe that half of the black men there date white women at least occasionally.

But Ralph Johnson, a sophomore who made Ms. Lyde’s list, says he can count the number of black men in relationships with white women on two hands.

Mr. Johnson, who says he usually dated black women in high school, says he fell for Rachel Davidson, who is white, shortly after a friend introduced them in a campus cafeteria. They have dated for more than a year now.

“Two people can love each other, and there should be nothing wrong with that,” he says. “I cannot be blamed for the lack of black men who get together with black women.”

Rarely do controversies over interracial dating become public. Last spring, a Yale University graduate set off a furor on that campus with an article in The New York Times in which she described the dim prospects that black women at Yale faced in trying to get a date. The story said some black women were tolerating unfaithful boyfriends or were bowing to sexual pressure.

On weekend nights at Brown, Ms. Lyde says, “black women just sit around and talk with each other. That’s it.”

Ms. Handelsman says that she understands why black women are angry, but that the “Wall of Shame” was such a personal attack that it should have been treated as a violation of the student-conduct code. She took her complaints to Leonard Perry, an associate dean of student life who also serves as an adviser to Harambee House.

He visited Ms. Lyde’s room but says he saw only a few names on her door, and nothing that said “Wall of Shame.” Because Ms. Handelsman did not file a written complaint, the university did not conduct a formal investigation.

Mr. Perry noted tension between black men and women in the dormitory, however, and suggested a workshop on interracial dating.

About 50 students — almost all of them black, and two-thirds of them women — talked, cried, and shouted during a tempestuous four-hour meeting. When some black men denied that they loathed their own race, black women began to call out more names of black men who date white women.

Some students were angry that the administration had not responded more forcefully to the list.

“For Brown to ignore the ‘Wall of Shame’ is really pretty wild,” says Tabitha Suarez, a Daily Herald columnist. “Brown is the kind of university that goes haywire over any breach of sensitivity.”

Black women say black men naively succumb to standards of beauty drawn from mainstream magazines and movies, which present blond, blue-eyed women as the ideal.

Ms. Abrams, the Brown junior, who grew up in Gulfport, Miss., says that as a teen-ager, she went to bed wishing that her kinky hair would straighten by the time she awoke. Now she’s learned to love her hair, and she’d like black men to do the same. “If you’re in love, and it’s a simple matter of attraction, then go for it,” she says. “But if you’re attracted to a white woman because you’ve been taught that white is the prime standard of beauty, then that’s problematic.”

The women at Brown have a point, says Larry Hajime Shinagawa, an assistant professor in the department of American multicultural studies at Sonoma State University who has studied interracial marriage. Twice as many black men as black women are married to whites, he notes, adding that stereotypes have something to do with the pattern.

Some black men may accept racist stereotypes of black women as bossy homemakers or strident complainers, he argues. “Unfortunately, there are still some very, very negative views about black women in this society.”

Ms. Abrams says some black men are looking for a chance to “step up” to the white world. “I’ve heard guys here say they’re going to go get their good job, their big salary, their big house, their big cars — and their white wife.”

She isn’t interested in dating outside her race, she says, because she worries about the way racism might subtly infect the relationship.

Mr. Johnson, the Brown sophomore, says black women are overstating the extent of interracial dating. While black women flock around what he calls “flashy guys” and athletes, he says, quiet and studious black men are ignored.

Black women “should start looking up” at all the available men around them, he says. “These are brothers who will be running companies someday.”

He says the idea that he has turned his back on his race by dating a white woman is absurd. He is the treasurer of Brown’s largest black-student group, the Organization of United African Peoples, and spent much of this winter scheduling campus speakers for Black History Month. Once a week, he heads to a Providence community center where he serves as a mentor for black high-school students.

The “Wall of Shame” is a distraction, he says. “There are so many other things that need this kind of energy and attention.”

Ms. Davidson, his girlfriend, says she wasn’t surprised by the naming of names on the door. She had sensed resentment from some black women from the first week of her relationship. “It was just a blatant display of something that we knew existed subtly,” she says.

The incident has strained relations between allies in Brown’s minority community. Several members of the Brown Organization of Multiracial and Biracial Students have one parent who is black and another who is white. “It’s indirectly expressing disapproval for their existence,” says Emily Lam, a leader of the group. She is of Chinese and Peruvian ancestry.

Jocelyn Burrell, a freshman who has a black father and a white mother, says she was devastated when she heard of the list. As a child, she says, she was stung when she overheard black men make “horribly derogatory” comments about black women.

She attended the heated meeting about interracial dating at Harambee House in part because she wanted to commiserate with the black women, she says. Yet she also wanted to tell them how badly she had been hurt by their action.

But the black woman leading the conversation would not let her speak, she says, because she is dating a white high-school student. “It’s like there was a hierarchy of pain.”

There is for Ms. Lyde. “I’m trying to talk to the black man, and they’re crying about being insulted. That’s the problem — everyone wants to get in on the conversation.”

Several black men have erased their names from the list on Ms. Lyde’s door. But even after eight months, two names remain. Ms. Lyde has no plans to remove them.

“Is it not the truth?” she asks.

One big problem with this conversation is that what constitutes a "nerd" is not properly defined. For the sake of this conversation, we will go with Mr. Johnson's definition above in green which is what most Black men are referring to when they say "nerds", that is guys who don't fit into the flashy guy or athlete or thug mold. Why do certain Black women have a problem with these guys

1) Black male nerds like most all other males in the United States whether they are Black or not, nerds or not, typically do not worship the "average to below average" Black female aesthetic . In typical bait and switch style, those Black females are bending over backwards trying to portray "nerdy" Black men as the angry rejects when it is they themselves who are feeling the sting of being unwanted. This sting is extra painful when it comes from males that are the same race. You hear it all the time in the worn out shaming tactic of "What about your mother".

The angry negress posted a posting of a Black male lamenting his lack of success in getting women. She even agrees with his implication that being a Black male is a total handicap unless if you are a 9 or 10. The ironic part of that posting of hers is if you replace Black male with White male and Black women with White woman, you basically have George Sodini (sans the shooting - hopefully).

Compare the Black male loser and his article to George Sodini:

November 5, 2008:
Planned to do this in the summer but figure to stick around to see the election outcome. This particular one got so much attention and I was just curious. Not like I give a flying fuck who won, since this exit plan was already planned. Good luck to Obama! He will be successful. The liberal media LOVES him. Amerika has chosen The Black Man. Good! In light of this I got ideas outside of Obama’s plans for the economy and such. Here it is: Every black man should get a young white girl hoe to hone up on. Kinda a reverse indentured servitude thing. Long ago, many a older white male landowner had a young Negro wench girl for his desires. Bout’ time tables are turned on that shit. Besides, dem young white hoez dig da bruthrs! LOL. More so than they dig the white dudes! Every daddy know when he sends his little girl to college, she be bangin a bruthr real good. I saw it. “Not my little girl”, daddy says! (Yeah right!!) Black dudes have thier choice of best white hoez. You do the math, there are enough young white so all the brothers can each have one for 3 or 6 months or so.

In the same fashion that the Black male loser blamed all of his dating woes on the White man, George Sodini, a White man and a total loser, blamed his woes on the Black man. The Black male that the angry negress is referencing is not the personification of a Black male nerd, he is the personification of a LOSER (which he admits himself). Black women who lament that Black losers like the blogger hate Black women don't know real hatred. The families of the victims of the White women who unfortunately got lined up in George Sodini's crosshairs know what real hate is.

Why does the angry negress and others like her continually go out of their way to tell Black men that other races of women don't want us unless if we are rich or a 9 or 10? Maybe because...

2) "Nerdy" Black men do have options. They may not have as many options as rich men or flashy Black men or even nerdy White men, but they do have options. They seem to have more options then Black females with the "average to below average" aesthetic. Of course I can already hear the predictable rantings of Black men only getting the fat ones or only getting the uneducated ones blah blah blah. In the article above, Mr. Brown and Mr. Johnson were dating women at the same Ivy league school. Most people tend to date someone who is a peer whether they date intraracially or interracially. Of course there are plenty of couples who don't and often times they are held up as examples of "proof".

If those men weren't worth a damn then why the "Wall of Shame?" Why go on "Oprah"? Why the "Nightline" Special? Black male nerds at least have the dignity to move on and go seek out women who appreciate them as they are while these angry fools chase after the same set of men creating their own perceived man shortage then go running to the media expecting the World to give a damn. Some of them are finally figuring it out that the world is laughing at them and not looking to help them.

The truth is even nerdy Black men's vote count. When nerdy Black men opt for non-Black women over another Black woman, it hits a deep nerve of insecurity. Even though any particular Black woman may not want that Black man herself, she needs that Black man to worship Black women as it is important to her massive ego. That is one main reason why the nerdy Black man must be kept in his place by angry Black females. That is the motivation behind the supposedly unanswerable question that the Angry Negress and another angry negress pose to Black male nerds.

I digress, but how can they claim a question as unanswerable when both angry negress would block and ban any commenter who would dare provide an answer that they don't want to hear? LOL. To the question, they always ask, "Why don't Black male nerds pursuit their nerdy Black female counterparts". At this point, I as a Black man is supposed to be stumped for an answer and guilted and shamed for my unfairness. But here is the simple answer:

Just as Black "dimes" have come to the conclusion that they don't owe nerdy Black men anything, Black nerd males have come to the same conclusion in regards to nerdy Black females.

See, it was not an unanswerable question. I will write it again:

Just as Black "dimes" have come to the conclusion that they don't owe nerdy Black men anything, Black nerd males have come to the same conclusion in regards to nerdy Black females.

If nerdy Black men are supposed to look at themselves and question what they are doing wrong, what the hell is keeping nerdy Black women from doing the same?

I for one am not buying the duplicitious bullshit of angry Black females. Out of one side of their mouth they proclaim their right to hypergamy when it comes to men (whether they date intraracially or interracially) , yet out of the other side when Black male nerds exercise their options, then and only then these Black females pretend to give a fuck about lynchings and Emmitt Till or the welfare of Black Children. Which leads to my next point...

3) Nerdy Black men are most likely not going to stick around to clean up the mess created by Black women and their "flashy" men. This reality is true whether the nerdy Black man goes his own way or if he selects a non-Black woman for a companion. The angry negress addresses this point in her other black male nerd bashing rants and disingeniuously camoflages her concern with more of her typical belittement of Black male nerds i.e. they work for White male nerds, they don't open any business etc. Ignoring the fact that 99% of White nerds work for somebody else, what do you care what occupation Black nerds have since you don't want them?

The truth is I personally don't care if Black women sleep with nerds or thugs or non-Black (re: White) men. Black women are free to be with whoever will have them.

My issue is when these Black women make bad choices then go running to the world blaming men like me. My issue is when these women allow Pookie and Ray-Ray to bust a raw nut up inside of them and then they go complaining that Black men like me don't want them because we hate our moms or I can't handle a strong woman or whatever nonsense of the day.

The reality of women is that they need men. Whether they want those man sexually or not is irrelevant. Compare places in America that are populated by single mothers and those that are not and you see the difference.

Many Black women fail to realize the difference between them and non-Black Women, and especially White women. As a collective whole, White women can afford to fuck up, Black women can't. An excellent read on the subject can be found in a 3 part series over at The Obsidian Files titled Sistas Can't Be Ms. Ann.

When a White women craps on beta White men while she is hot and in her twenties in favor of White Alpha men, she knows that White beta men (along with many other races of male outsiders) will be there for her when she is ready to settle down. Same can be said for Asians and Latinas. Black women don't seem to have that same luxury. Does that mean that Black women need to kiss Black male nerds ass? No it doesn't.

What it does mean is that when a Black female hits 35,40 and up and can't find a mate then she needs to re-examine her own choices instead of blaming everyone and everything else. Black male Nerds are people too, they have a right to go where they want and where they think they can succeed.

And cry me a fucking river about "beauty standards" allowing non-Black women to fuck up and still find mates while not permitting Black women to do the same. Just as you are free to eliminate "nerds" from your dating pool the rest of the world is equally free to eliminate you from theirs.

When a single White woman gets knocked up, she usually has a strong support system. When a single Black woman gets knocked up, she usually doesn't. The angry negress at one time pointed this out and placed the blame on Black men as usual. I have an alternate suggestion: Bitches, close your fucking legs and make sure the man you lay down with is a man who cares enough about you to take care of you and the offspring. I know me pointing this out runs the risk of me getting casted as a Black male nerd who is jealous of "them thugs who be gettin allz da wimmins".

Instead of seeing men like me who point this out as jealous, they should see it as a warning to be heeded. Do as you please, but I won't be the one cleaning it up. In the real world and on the blogosphere I read it plenty. The cries for other Black men who had absolutely nothing to do with the siring of these children to "step up" and "be responsible" for the children for the sake of the race. Where was the responsibility and concern for the race when she let that flashy nigga who wasn't going to stick around spank dat ass?

Just because you are the same skin color or race doesn't mean I have to give a fuck about your bastard offspring. Like everyone else, all you and they are entitled to are your human and civil rights. After that, you are on your own.

Oh and another thing. Many of these womens' bastard offspring, usually the males, often use their predicament (I ain't got no daddy) as an excuse to act a fool. Instead of blaming the source (their mothers lascivious ways) they take out their frustration on the rest of the world. One day if one of them dares decide to approach me or mines with foul intent, me and my Sig Sauer will be waiting. I do hope I never have to use it.

I do believe in giving back, but I for damn sure will not be anybody's cuckold or Captain Save-a-ho. No amount of bullshit is going to shame me into wasting my precious little time on this Earth into fixing someone elses bullshit.

I saw the angry negress' first article about nerds and wanted to reply but didn't. Then a saw the second and felt the same and didn't. She couldn't resist going back to that same well so I felt I needed to say something. If she doesn't like Black male nerds, then that is fine, that is her business and her life. However, if you don't like them, leave them the hell alone.

Truth is many Black male nerds have found their way in this hostile world and that way doesn't include worshipping the ground that the angry negress and any and all Black women walk on. Her inability to deal with that reality is why the angry negress and others like her truly hates nerdy Black Men.

My Thoughts on White Men and how it relates to SSC

2010-03-30T06:15:00.000-07:00

I have never ever really written about White Men because unlike some (far too many) in the Black Blogosphere, I do not endow unlimited powers to them. Of course there are unquestioned racial priviledge's that come with being a White man in America. However, in the real world where it counts, I actually have White male friends and acquaintances in my personal life. I can assure you that life for them is not as simple as snapping their fingers and watching the world fall to their feet. I feel compelled to address some issues that keep recurring.

1. White men (like all people) have their own racial misgivings just like everyone else. Also, they are not a monolithic group anymore than Black people are. Some are more racist than others and some hide it better than others. Some are nicer than others.

I don't hate white men nor do I blame the ones alive today for things that happened before they were born. Like I said there are good and bad people, and the good are not responsible for the evil and the sins of the bad. That is not to say that discrimination and racism does not exist or that people should ignore any genuine social ill (newsflash: Black women's inability to land the type of men that they desire is not a social ill, it is a personal dilemna. It is no more a social ill than anyone else who fails to do the same for whatever reason).

As much as the Something Screwed Crew (SSC) tries to flaunt White men in front of me, white men aren't really holding me back from anything that I want to accomplish. I wanted to go to college I went to college (got into my first choice - got into all that I applied to for that matter.). I wanted to travel, I traveled. I wanted to open my own business I opened it. When I wanted to close it, I closed it. I wanted a pretty girlfriend that loves and respects me and shares common interests and I got that. (She looks like a younger, Filipina version of CNN newswoman Robin Meade). I don't think White men are going to stop me from do anything I want to do in the future (more travel, start a family, start a new business, etc).

Of course tomorrow on my way to pick up milk I could get busted over the head and falsely arrested by a white police officer and then all of those who live in awe of the almighty white boogeyman can say "I told you so". I also could get jumped by a street gang of black thugs, which sadly, is more likely than getting busted over the head by a white cop. I have no choice but to deal with either of those events when they come, if they ever come and not waste my time pretending like the pro-Black phonies, that an all Black world would make things perfect.

2. The SSC likes to keep stating that it is "a white man's world" or "white men own everything", which is true to some extent but not complete. They mostly say this in a vain attempt to make Black men feel the same level of inferiorty that they experience in the presence of White women. They ignore that wealth and power is not equally distributed among White men. Most sociological surveys state that the richest 10% own 80% of the wealth and the poorest 90% own 20%, which means a whole lot of broke White men. In my life for various reasons (sometimes work related, sometimes social) I have been around Whites who own lots of stuff and around those who don't own anything. There are far more of the latter. To hear the SSC, every White man is a CEO of major company with a Yacht and lives on a multi-acre estate.

At the end of 2008, there were only 2.5 millionaires out of over 300 million people in the United States (of course, not all of them White or men). Newsflash to the angry SSC: why do you think that White women and any non-white women go after Black men with money? Simple, supply and demand. There are fewer men with money than there are women that want them. It really is that simple. What truly bothers the SSC is that men with money (regardless of race) tend not to choose them (unless if they are ultrafine). Why? If it were merely White Supremacy, then how does that explain Latinas and Asian women not having any trouble despite not being pure blood aryans?

3. When the SSC does get a White men he tends to fall into one of the following 4 categories:

1) Old - I would speculate that most of the white men I see with Black women are White men who have already had their first families and white kids with white wives and he is now divorced or widowed and is now getting with a Black women way past the prime years of his life.

2) Creepy - These are the "chocolate fantasy" guys. Of all the white men interested in Black women, they are the ones with the most money and they need it too. These men would have trouble attracting any woman without it.

3) Wiggers - This is self-explantory. White guy thinks that "Nubian Princess" will give him street cred.

4) Mild Washout - Not a complete failure, but not the smashing success either. These are the types of guys that work in a mailroom or delivers pizza or drives a bus. They often work multiple low-level jobs at the same time when the work is available. A black man on the same level of employment would be no good, but these white men get a pass. And these same women are the ones who will cry up and down about "colorism". But it only applies when they see a man they want.

Of course these groupings are not indicative of all Black women/White men couples as there are many who do not fit this mold.

The funny (in an ironic sense) thing about all four categories is that I always end up getting my ass kissed by the male while the female looks on with a disconcerted expression when I meet one of these couples. It is the almost as if the men go out of their way to prove that they are "down" or okay with Black men and they "understand" me just because they are with a Black woman. This is a far far cry from the "power couples" that Black women threaten Black men with when they claim they are going to hook up with White men.

You hear White men and Black women proclaim that Black men only get the white women that white men don't want (more on that in the next thought) Is it obvious who gets the White men that White women don't want? Who gets the Black women that Black men don't want?

If Black men are "damaged" or "trying to prove something" when they get with White women, then White men must be doing the same when they try to get with Asian women. White men will select 11-12 Asian women for every Black women he selects. The vicious irony in the SSC is that they hold the White man up as the ulitmate prize, yet when he chooses non-white women he chooses Black women dead last. If Black women insist that White men are the ulitmate prize and could have anything he wants and he doesn't want you, then why the hell would anyone else? Black women are arguing against themselves.

4. White men and Black women like to play up the stereotype that Black men can only get fat white women or women that white men don't want anymore. It's like both White men and Black women think if they can say it over and over and over again everyone will believe it is true. Mostly, this is done to shame White women and Black men. I have pointed this out in the past, but it has fallen on deaf ears, I can understand White men playing up the stereotype, but why do Black women play it up? Black women who parrot the stereotype are basically confessing to the world "Black men would rather be with a fat white woman over me, therefore you know I must really suck as a woman." Black women foolishly arguing against herself once again.

On the occassions I have seen Black men with fat/busted up white women often times the Black man was no prize himself. In addition since 80% of Black women are overweight or obese, chances are a Black man with an overweight white woman would have only ended up with a overweight Black woman if he "kept it real". When I brought up the Black women being overweight stat on another blog, a highly defensive Black woman retorted "well 60% of White women are overweight". She proved my point without realizing it. If 60% of White women are overweight and only a small percentage (somewhere around 1-2%) of White women overall date/cohabit/marry Black men, then who do you think is ending up with the rest of these overweight women that White men supposedly don't want? Or are we supposed to believe that every White man is getting a Victoria Secrets model with a masters degree (of course I realize that White men would gladly take a Victoria Secrets model without the masters degree, I just put that in their because too Black women can't get it through their heads that their education is not a primary tool of attraction for a man. I didn't say it was unimportant, I said it wasn't primary. Big difference).

Also as for White men not wanting or accepting White women that Black men have been with look no further than their very own postergirl, Lisa Lampanelli. Lisa is a comedian who made these comments

my problem is, I can’t get a good-looking white guy anymore, I just don’t have the looks to get that. I can get hot blacks, but also blacks are now starting to get uppity and go for the skinny white ones and the Asians, which is very offensive to me that they don’t stick with their roots — the chubby white girl!

The Black men only get fat contigent lauded these comments and held them as "proof" of their viewpoint. They ignore me when I tell them that Ms. Lampanelli, is currently engaged to a White man.

So can we finally cut the nonsense? From Lisa Lampanelli to Kim Kardashian, if these women would avail themselves sexually to White men, their would be a whole line of them waiting. There is no such thing as a woman with a vagina that "all" white men don't want. Sure some White men have standards as do some Black men, but not all.

Some White men can't control themselves around bad pussy, just like some of their Black male counterparts. The SSC thinks this is trait that is only endemic to Black men, but it isn't. From Bill Clinton (the most powerful man in the world at the time and he had a fat chick and many busted up chicks) to John Edwards to Eliot Spitzer to Jesse James (who married a porn star before this current debacle). Not making excuses for Black men who make bad choices (Kobe, Tiger, etc), just pointing out that it is an interpersonal issue more than anything related to these mens race.

There you have it. Beyond personal interactions and these bloggings, I don't spend a lot of time thinking about what White men are doing. Fortunately for me, I don't have an inferiority complex to them the way the SSC seemingly does towards other women and especially White women. White men have their lives and I have mines and I try to live my own.

The End is Near: Something Screwed Movement on Life Support

2009-07-25T15:22:00.001-07:00

This will probably be my last post on this topic. Funny thing is the movement barely got off the ground in the first place. CW's marriage only provided the ultimate nail in their dishonest, hypocritical coffin. I have nothing against Black women nor any women nor anyone else. I would love for everyone to be happily paired with the person of their choice. However, if you feel the need to bash an entire group to achieve that goal then there is something wrong with you.

As I said this will probably be my last post on the topic as it seems that as much that needs to be said has been said. I want give shout outs to Una, Rocky, Raina, Mr. Queens, and Rashida, as I will continue to view your blogs. Also want to send shout outs to Menelik, ms kitty, and mrsrony for contributing in the posts. I will still be around under my nom de plume fighting the good fight for what I believe is the truth.

Till next time,

Truth B. Told

President Obama - He must have "Self-Hate".

2009-07-11T05:37:00.001-07:00

He must hate Black women. Or he must be brainwashed by the mainstream media. Or he must hate his mother (even though his mom is White, but let's not let facts get in the way). Or he may secretly be gay. Or he wants to be a White man. Or he may be a flaming colorist. Or fill in the blank with whatever guilting and shaming tactic that is thrown at healthy heterosexual Black men who dare find a non-Black or light-skinned woman attractive.

Reality Check: Healthy Heterosexual men notice and like ATTRACTIVE women, regardless of race. Black men are men too, even if they are the president.

I know there is a video of this that is trying to show him helping the lady after the one in the dress, but who are we kidding? He was checking her out, even if it were a brief glance. Like that old saying, a picture is worth a thousand words. This one says 5: Obama is human and male.

Khadija's Bullshito - Factually Challenged Yet Again

2009-07-09T21:31:00.000-07:00

Facts just don't hold meaning to the Something Screwed Crew (SSC), especially when they get in the way of what they want (to beg the world to allow them out of being Black Women). In her latest blog, Khadija said

1. Regardless of the mother's race, the vast majority of the children in foster care are Black men's children. Let's call these Black biological fathers "Ray-Ray" during this post.

Really? Not according to the Child Welfare Information Gateway website.

Of the estimated 510,000 children in foster care on September 30, 2006:

40 percent were White/Non-Hispanic
32 percent were Black/Non-Hispanic
19 percent were Hispanic
9 percent were other races or multiracial

While math was not my strongest subject, I am almost certain that 32% is not a "vast majority". Even if every single one of the 9% of the multiracial kids had a Black father, it still wouldn't be a "vast majority".

In addition to that

The percentage of Black/Non-Hispanic children in care on September 30 dropped 7 percentage points (from 39 to 32 percent) between FY 2000 and FY 2006, while the percentage of White/Non-Hispanic children rose 2 points and the percentage of Hispanic children rose 4 points.

RealityCheck: When any kid is required to be in a foster care, it is a tragedy, regardless of the child's race. And the number of Black kids in foster care, even though not as bad as Khadija is trying to portray, is still far far from an ideal situation. However, that does not give the SSC the right to abuse the truth in their desperate to escape their Black womanhood, which is their ultimate goal no matter what they say. Unfortunately for them, there is no escape. No matter how White the man, these Black women of the SSC will never become White women.

And to the women of the world who continue to spread their legs to the "Ray Ray's" of the world: PLEASE STOP FUCKING THEM! Or at the very least use one of the several methods of birth control. You are not a victim nor powerless (not including incidences of actual rape). It is nobody's damn fault but your own that you can't resist raw dick.

The same Black women who blame "Ray Ray" for all of their problems and think white men are going to save them are deluding themselves. In the end the few SSC members that can find White men are only going to trade in "Ray Ray" for "Billy Bob Ray". Then who will they have to blame?

A White B'Woy Loves Black Women - Starting at $25.75

2009-07-05T01:42:00.000-07:00

One "White B'woy's" plan to make money:

Step 1. Position yourself as a White man who loves Black women. Since it is a White man specifically it will be extra special to these insecure Black women.

Step 2. Write essays and post pictures about said Black women. Doing this will build you an audience and give you some credibility.

Step 3. As you hook the audience, introduce the products. In this case, it is t-shirts. Below are a few of the offerings

He started the site in November of 2008 and "introduced" his first shirt nearly 4 days later. He has been hawking shirts ever since. I almost feel bad for the women on the site who don't realize that their "admirer" has his admiration for them in one hand and a t-shirt for $25.75 (or more) in the other. His latest blog states "Who knows, maybe there are coming more!". If he is making money, you can count on it, LOL.

Reality Check: As long as you are insecure, their will be people in this world who will willingly exploit that insecurity for their own financial gain. It wouldn't even shock me if "Andreas" is not some Swedish "White B'woy" but some enterprising middle class American teenager or some Korean with a side business of hair weaves and skin bleacher for insecure Black women also.

Khadija's Bullshito - Another Double Standard Exposed

2009-06-26T20:13:00.000-07:00

Following a link on Mr. Queens site, I read Khadija's lastest blog entry. One qoute in particular caught my attention:

Keep in mind that she's NOT doing this even while her Arab man is busy following through on his hostility toward the White West. Unlike loudtalking Negroes, Arab men are actually running around killing up their WM enemies.

Like many Something Screwed Crew (SSC) statements, this one is flawed on so many levels.

1. For someone advocating IR dating (especially with White men) doesn't this statement seems like she has her own hostilities towards the "White West"? As she is almost happy that someone is "killing" White men.

2. Notice when non-Black men kill White men it is because they are brave men actually following through on their hostilities toward the White West unlike those cowardly negro males who just talk

but when a Black man kills a white man he is just another evil damaged beyond repaired criminal thug loser who does not want to behave like a civilized individual.

Notice the two on the end are wearing the familiar prison orange that many of the "DBRs" end up of wearing while the one in the middle is truly "damaged beyond repair" (dead).

3. It is not just Arab men who are "fighting" the west while the women sit around pretty and the kids go to school.

4. Khadija is fond of giving people who disagree with her homework assignments. Here is one for Khadija. Compare the number of Arabs killed by the West this decade compared to the number of Western Whites killed by Arabs. Then ask yourself which enemy is doing the killing. Here is a hint: the group of Men that the SSC is dying to spread their nasty , out-of-wedlock child-bearing, gold-digging legs for.

5. As for the rest of the article, other races of men don't pursue Black women like other groups of women for the very reason of the double standards and hypocrisies that this article illustrates. Other races of men can SEE YOU and HEAR YOU. They see how you constantly attack Black men from all angles and they do not want to be in that position. One minute we are savages and the next we are cowards. One minute we are weak and powerless men and the next we are powerfully dictating to the rest of the worlds men to keep away from Black women (yeah, that's what's holding them back, LOL). Black men are bad daddies, but Arab men are wonderful for sending their kids off to die in a suicide bombing.

Reality Check: For all of the angry Negro women bullshit and whining, how many of these SSC members would truly be willing to trade places with Arab women? I here Baghdad is nice this time of year.

Evia: Still Can't See the Forest (Whitaker) for the Trees

2009-06-07T21:19:00.001-07:00

Evia's latest indocrination is more of the same old self-entitled whining that has been addressed before, but I will address it again. In her latest post, she once again attacks a Black man (and all Black men by extension) who dare not find her "type" sexy. I'll just point out some of the things that bothered me.

1) Why is a Black woman who is supposedly happily married to a White man and who advocates Black women date out interested in who Black men find attractive?

2) Evia once again foolishly compares job performance (something with objective criteria) to sexual attraction (something subjective).

3) Evia creates a strawman by giving Black men their argument that we would be upset at the Australian producer who did not want to cast Forest Whitaker. Actually I agree with the Australian producer if his job is on the line. He has every right to put whoever he thinks can make his film the most successful.

4) Evia once again ignores reality. Forest Whitaker has a successful acting career with an Oscar to show for it. He also seems to be a happily married man with happy children. Even when a Black man succeeds he can't win with the Something Screwed Crew. However, when one is as self-serving and selfish as Evia, facts will not register. Even IF Forest Whitaker was a flaming colorist, he married an attractive woman, what is what most men ulitmately want. Why should Forest pass on such a woman and keep looking for someone that meets Evia's approval? Who the fuck is Evia?

5) Gwen Ifill is single for the very simple reason that men are not looking for Gwen Ifill. Gwen Ifill has been surrounded by powerful men of all races in her career, yet none of them have managed to hook up with her. At 54, it hasn't been just Black men that don't find her marriage worthy, it has been All men.

6) Doesn't Evia realize that she sounds like a nasty, sexual predator. Demanding Quid Pro Quo or threatening to "starve" Black men for marrying who they please? What? Just because she paid $7 for a movie ticket she thinks this gives her the right to tell Forest Whitaker where to stick his dick for the rest of his life? What ever happened to going to a movie and enjoying it because you like the content?

How big of a pig of a woman do you have to be to threaten men to find you attractive? Did White women threaten to boycott the Beatles after John Lennon married Yoko Ono or threaten to boycott FOX after Rupert Murdoch married his Chinese bride?

7) If Forest Whitaker drove a cab or worked in a cafeteria, do you think Evia would be lamenting the skin tone of his wife? I wonder how many of these so called darked skin sisters turned away Forest and his "funny eye" before he became a world famous actor. Why is it okay for Black women to be able the select and reject who they wish, but Black men have to adhere to some standard or otherwise be labeled "damaged".

8) As yanmommasaid pointed out:

If a Black man dates a light skin woman, it must be because he is a trifling, no good, self-hating, momma hating, wanna be white man, lowdown no good ass-kissing uncle tom. And the light skin woman is a bitch who is taking advantage of her "priviledge" and thus faces much scorn from other Black women.

However if a White man dates the very same light skin woman, it is a match made in heaven and she is soul sister #1, an inspiration to all Black women who wish to date non-Black (mostly White) men.

And a vast majority of the women on earth standing next to Eddie Murphy are going to be lighter than him. Should he limit himself to a much smaller percentage of the female population just so he can get Evia's $7?

9) In the ultimate irony, the last part of the article talks about dangerous Black men who won't take no for an answer from Black women who don't want them. Yet, earlier she is the one threatening to "starve" someone for not taking an interest in someone like her. If Evia and women like her had the physical strength, I would fear for men like Forest Whitaker.

Lying Well: How Evia Abuses the Truth

2009-05-06T12:37:00.000-07:00

Evia is up to her old desperate tricks again. I guess I will take on the assignment of exposing her. This time she relies on the old standby that marriages between Black women/Non-Black Men are some panacea while passive-agressively taking a shot at couples featuring Black Men and White women.

In the video posted on her site, it qouted the following from the Education Resources Information Center:

The literature on interracial families has examined social stigmas attached to interracial relationships but has not thoroughly documented whether crossing racial boundaries increases the risk of divorce. Using the 2002 National Survey of Family Growth (Cycle VI), we compare the likelihood of divorce for interracial couples to that of same-race couples. Comparisons across marriage cohorts reveal that, overall, interracial couples have higher rates of divorce, particularly for those marrying during the late-1980s. We also find race and gender variation. Compared to White/White couples, White female/Black male, and White female/Asian male marriages were more prone to divorce; meanwhile, those involving non-White females and White males and Hispanics and non-Hispanic persons had similar or lower risks of divorce.

First problem is that it is only an abstract. The Something Screwed Crew (SSC) loves qouting that abstract. Has any of them ever read the whole Journal article? Has any of them ever provided any official statistics regarding how individual groups fair when marrying interracial? Is there an official break down showing how Black women/White Men vs. Asian Women/White men couples do? If anyone has these stats please provide them.

Second issue is notice the part I italicized states non-White females. Somehow Evia and the producer of that video ignores that part and morphs non-White females into Black females and the video showed nothing about any other non-White female group, which is what the stat inferred. If the majority of White men in interracial relationships are involved with non-Black females, (mostly Asian women), then isn't most of the credit due to non-Black women?

The third issue is the funniest to me. While parading the various Black women/Non-Black men featured in the video (I thought that the abstract was about White men/Non-White women?) this supposedly educated woman and her video rattles off a ordinal ranking listing of the "most successful interracial marriages". Where did they get this info from? Cosmo magazine! Excuse me, I am going to damage my ribs laughing.

Time to shed some light on the truth.

Reality Check 1 - If Black women are such great marriage partners with such successful marriages, then why are 70% of them single? Why aren't Non-black men beating a path to their doors and pursuing them like they do all other groups of women?

Reality Check 2 - If Black Men/White women couples are so poor in relation to Black Women/White men, then why in 2007 were there as many Black Women/White Men couples (126,000) as there were Black Men/White Women couples (122,000) in 1980? In other words, in terms of the number of couples, Black Women/White Men couples are 27 years behind.

http://www.census.gov/compendia/statab/tables/09s0059.pdf

Reality Check 3 - Why is this even a competition? Why does someone else need to fail in order for Evia and the SSC to feel successful? I can throw out stats too. Did you know that children fathered in Black Men/White Women relationships have an IQ that is 8-9 points higher than children fathered in Black women/White Men relationships? Google Willerman, Naylor and Myrianthopoulos for more info. When the Black Man/White Woman were married, the IQ is 104.7, higher than the average White (which is around 100). If Black Women/White Men couples were so magically successful, why don't they produce offspring that are more likely to succeed?

Ultimate Reality Check - Ultimately who cares? People don't marry groups, they marry individuals. Or at least that is what they should strive to. If you are in a relationship with someone and that person makes you happy, why do you care what your groups stats say.

I Almost Don't Care Anymore

2009-04-26T02:51:00.000-07:00

I have not posted in a while for a reason. I just don't care as much anymore. Don't get me wrong I have plenty of material and I always come to my computer with ideas. When I sit down, I just find other things to do that I enjoy more.

I am not going away. I will post when the moment strikes and I will still follow the other blogs I have been following. Shout outs to Una, Rocky, Queens, and Raina and others.

I am tired of the same old same old. I try to stick to the issues (admittely don't always succeed)and all I get greeted with is nastiness, the same old guilting and shaming tactics, and accusations of wanting White women and hating Black women. As if I have something to gain for Black women suffering. Of course "suffering" to them means not being wanted by certain men (i.e. wealthy men), not actual suffering like getting stoned to death for being raped or getting their clitorises cut off.

I don't hate the Something Screwed Crew (SSC), in fact I truly pity them and I cringe for those sane and mentally balanced Black women (shout outs to mskitty and MrsRony) like I cringe for myself when people use negative images of Black men to represent me. After all what group of women on this planet chase after men? Is there any other group of women on this planet so overly reliant on guilt and shame and emotional blackmail as these women are? Why don't they realize that other races of women get married because they offer men QUALITY and not hide behind history or play the race or colorism card as the SSC is quick to do when they don't get their way. And when I say quality, I mean quality that men are looking for, not self-imposed ideas that they think they can shove down men's throats in the face of centuries of human conditioning.

The SSC loves their freedom. They love the fact that they can go to universities, they can open businesses, they can buy homes, they can date and marry whoever they want, etc. However, the SSC can't stand that Black men have the same freedom. For some reason they are under the impression that the Civil Rights Movement was designed to transfer control of Black men lives from White male hands to Black Women hands.

In addition to intolerance for Black men's freedom, the SSC cannot tolerate personal responsibility. They go around declaring how independant they are and when people leave them to their independance they get nasty. They want the freedom to sleep with who they want, but when they get burned by that bad decision and end up with and STD or unwanted kids it is not their fault. It is all Black men's fault.

They blame Black men like me for not lecturing other Black men who do not take care of their kids. What the fuck I am supposed to say to discourage a man who you keep offering up easy pussy to? These women keep rewarding these bad men and then only after the bad men reveal that general truth that bad men don't usually make very good fathers then and only then they lash out. It never occurs to them to keep their legs closed to bad men or at the very least, use some form of birth control. Like animals they can't even put on a fucking condom, yet I am supposed to do something about these women and their plight?

I myself purposely do not have any kids. I will not have any until I get married. And before you mean and nasty people who read this try to insult me, I have had my chances. Not to get overly graphic, but once I was without a condom and a woman insisted that I put it in anyway. While there may be no better feeling than an uncovered penis inside a vagina, I was so petrified at the thought of having a kid like that I easily declined. That is the extent of my control. I have no interest in taking care of anyone else's bastard(s). I did not spend all these years exercising caution and self control to suffer the consequences of someone else's mistake. I have no interest in lecturing other grown ass men on how to live, especially when these grown ass men are going to be rewarded with poontang by equally irresponsible, retarded ass women.

If they want to blame Black men for everything then so be it. If they want to believe that they are the ultimate victims in the history of the universe, then so be it. If they want to believe that White men are fueling up buses getting ready to send those buses to Black neighborhoods to gather up all the Black women they can love, then let them belive that. If they want to continue to ignore the extreme message that the 70% single rate should be screaming at them, then that is their choice. If they want to believe that my unwillingess to kiss their ass and completely subjugate my will to their desires means that I must hate all Black women and therefore "crave" White women then let them. A side note, notice that is always stated as a "craving" for White women. Why can't I ever "crave" Asian women or Latina women or other women? Perhaps they are revealing more about where they are insecure than they intend to. Whatever folly they choose to believe will be to their own detriment, and not mines.

As for me, I have built my life to the point where I have options, professionally and personally. My life is not perfect, but I am going strong in these tough economic times. I feel I could do better, and to do so I am going to focus my main efforts on what I need to the most: How to improve myself. Something the SSC should do also, but I doubt that they will.

Say no to Illogic - Myth of Evia's E-zine

2009-03-18T17:53:00.000-07:00

I am shaking my head as I read Evia's latest self-serving rant. In this essay I will point out a few things that caught my eye. I will put Evia's writing in red then follow with a response.

I've faced the fact that even if I post a million pics here and even if I posted our marriage certificates here with our pics engraved on the certificates, it wouldn't matter because many people just do NOT want to believe that we're happy-content-satisfied in our relationships, which have the usual relationships' ups and downs.

If Evia posted a million pics of American Black Women involved in interracial marriages, she would have to fabricate about 850,000 of those pics. I have posted the stats on BW and interracial marriage, people can take them or leave them.

And trust me: neither race, nor ethnicity has anything to do with male size, sexual potency or performance. This has been proven by research. However, AA males keep telling bw this HYPE. The next time one of these males says this to you, ask him how exactly is it that bm KNOW that wm can't "jump" unless they've been sexing wm? I've heard and read where some of them claim that ww have told them that. LOL! Smart move. It would be totally dumb for a ww to be in bed with a bm and tell him that wm are better. Enough said about that particular hype. The need for critical thinking is CRITICAL, y'all.

First problem, the biggest purveyor of the idea of Black Male Potency are not Black men nor Black Women, it is the very White men that Evia are trying to pimp to Black women. It is White men who control the media, and who control the porn industry that insists on that standard. I personally don't place that much importance on group anything let alone group Phallic Size. Evia forgets that many of these White men play sports with and share locker rooms with Black men. If White Men who control the media keep playing it up, maybe it is their own feelings that should be questioned.

Secondly, how insulting is this to Black women, assuming that they are only interested in Black men only because of some sexual myth. As if Black Women who don't agree with her are incapable of having higher interests such as shared history or struggle or just plain preference for Black men. Once again if you dare disagree with the almighty Evia, something must be wrong with you.

But hear this: hundreds of thousands (million?) of the the STRONGEST, MOST MASCULINE MALES could not possibly be caged in prison by weaker males. If I'm wrong, then what does "strong" and "most masculine" mean? Or, if it is true that black males are the strongest and most masculine men on earth, then what good is being strong and masculine when other men have to feed you and can put you in cages whenever they want? What is being strong and masculine really worth if the bulk of these males have abandoned most of their defenseless children? All of the superiority nonsense is a joke told to foolish women who reward these jokers by paying attention to them and giving them what they what they want. Sensible bw do not pay attention to any bm who peddles that kind of hype.

Perhaps Evia has never heard of the Holocaust. You know that thing where 6 million Jews were ripped from there homes and killed. Do people consider Jewish people weak, and especially the Men less masculine because of what happened to them? After all they were caged and fed until their deaths by the Germans.

Of course not, most sane and intelligent people consider them as victims. Their group intelligence (Jewish people are and have always been among the most educated groups wherever they live) did not prevent their victimization. Their wealth (which was confiscated by the Germans) did not prevent their victimization.

How does this relate? The Something Screwed Crews hatred for themselves and their Blackness have lead them down the path of worshipping the victimization of their ancestors and their descendants (us) as a sign of Black men's weakness. Not just Evia, but many of them. They defecate on the graves of every person who suffered and lived and died so they could be free to act the fools that they act today, both Black Men and Women. While I disagree with Mr. Queens when he calls these women "Sellouts" just for marrying White Men, I call these women sellouts for disgracing the suffering of their own people. I don't care who marries who, but when you have to justify it like this, then shame on you.

Secondly reading that passage from Evia, I would believe that Evia thinks all cops are White Men and all criminals are Black Men. No Black men (or women or Asian) law enforcement officers and no White (or Asian or Women) criminals. Need I explain the folly of this any further?

Finally on this point, not everybody is a front runner like Evia. Few fair and honest people would deny that being a White Man in America is not the most challenging of circumstances. There are people who do admire and see strength in Black Men because they continue to persevere even though not every thing is set up in their favor. Where many other groups have fled their countries in search of a greener pasture, or have been completely terminated, Blacks and Black Men have fought to get what they have. Not everybody is inclined to kiss ass just so they can "live in the suburbs".

Let's be realistic about this. No group is superior. Individuals must be vetted and judged INDIVIDUALLY.

Then why does your blog continually contradict this message? Don't see a whole lot about vetting any other group except White men.

Many wm and other non-bm who are interested in bw as potential mates also need to see these pics to know that many AA women they see everyday who may appear not to be interested in wm or non-bm are very interested, but just don't quite know how to subtly give them the "green light" and connect with them. And of course, many wm, like various other men, fear rejection, but this means that BOTH of them are going to have to take the risk or if not, in many cases, they will miss out on having the wonderful type of relationship that you describe below.

Try as best as you can to follow Evia's logic: Black men are weak because they are caged and fed by stronger White men, yet somehow these same Strong White men need to see pictures on HER website because they FEAR being rejected by the women that are associated with the weak Black men that they cage and feed.

Are you fucking jiving me?

Women who don't know how to give men a signal that they are interested? Is there such a thing? Why does a strong man need any signal? Strong and assertive men know what they want and don't wait for signals, they take action. White men are not waiting for Asian Women to signal them.

It's really a LOT of these Christian leaders (both black and white, females and males) who keep wm and bw apart.

Oh my god (pun intended) is this woman out of her mind with paranoia. Once again, shouldn't these strong masculine White men overcome any barriers to get to their Black Queens?

There is really a lot of vile behavior that has always been committed by Christians though (the Crusades, racism, sexism, etc). I've wondered too how such ***devout*** Christians could hate other people that God made, that is IF they really believe in God and IF they believe that God made these other people.

Maybe this is something she should ask herself as she has shown no grace nor mercy to what she called DBR Black Men. Aren't they god's children also?

If you're going to continue to remain in the "Christian" setting, I'd suggest that you join a multiracial church that has a sizeable number of wm/non-bm members in your age category and you have to make it a point to be approachable or maybe you're the outgoing type who can comfortably approach guys?.

Foolish me, I thought Church was a place to worship the Lord. Don't get me wrong, I know many people meet their spouses at church. However, going to Church with another agenda doesn't sound very Christian-like to me.

I've always mixed with a wide variety of other groups of people, so I feel comfortable in many settings, but most people don't get the chance or don't create opportunities to mix with a wide variety of others from other groups, so they only have the stereotypic lens to view each other through and let's face it, the negative stereotypes about both blacks and whites are BAD.

The only thing that she wrote that I almost agree with. I say almost agree because she omits Asians and Latinos and other people. She never really focuses on them anyway, so I am not surprised.

Double Standard On Blogspot?

2009-03-15T00:10:00.000-07:00

There were two sites on Blogspot one named White Women Suck and the other Black Women Suck. As of last week, the Black Women site was blocked by blogspot, yet the White Women site remains open. Why? Of course I find the idea and content of both of these sites highly objectionable, so please don't write me pretending that I am for one site over the other. I am not. What I want to know is why the double standard? If one site is objectionable enough to close then why not the other? Or maybe enough people have not flagged the White Women Suck blog. If not I encourage you to do so by clicking here.

For those of you wondering why do I care, I am reminded of what is on the Holocaust Museum in DC:

Thou shalt not be a victim. Thou shalt not be a perpetrator. Above all, thou shalt not be a bystander.

If you are reading this and agree please click here and not be a bystander.

Difference Between Preference and Discrimination

2009-03-04T22:37:00.001-08:00

In Evia's latest post she continues to foolishly compare actual racial discrimination with someone's individual dating preferences. I will do my best to shed some light on this. First I will qoute you what she said

I continue to get notes from black men arguing that they have the "right" to prefer lighter-whiter skin shades in women, but they do not want to accept that they are upholding the white racist construct that says that light/white skin people are superior, more attractive, more intelligent and more desirable to be around than darker skinned people. Why then do these same men get so furious when whites discriminate against them in hiring, police brutality, driving while black,--on the basis of their darker skin shades. It's all about skin shade. It's the SAME reason for that white person's discrimination.

I'll address the first part first. You notice that she never applies this logic to any other pairing other than Black Men/White Women. There are more White Man/Asian Women Couples than there are Black Men /White Woman couples and Asian Men/White Women couples combined. Are White Men guilty of creating a construct of Yellow supremacy? And unless if these same Black Men sexually crave White Men, then how does the Black Man/White Woman pairing uphold White Supremacy? It doesn't. Finally why doesn't Evia take the glass is half-full approach and view it the other way: White Women who date Black Men are rejecting the notion of White Supremacy. Of course this would be giving White Women credit for something good and her platform cannot possibly allow that.

The only real problem that Evia has with this pairing is that it doesn't favor Evia.

I know Black men who prefer Non-Black Women, Black men who prefer light-skinned Black women, Black Men who prefer Dark Skinned Women, and Black men who prefer men. Why is one set of these men entitled to their preferences and the others are not? What the Evias of the world don't get is that the biggest turnoff is not their looks, but it is the self-centered entitlement that states "like me or there must be something severely mentally wrong with you".

As for the second part, she compares police brutality to someone not wanting to date you on Saturday night. Is this woman serious? For those of you have not figured this out let me tell you the critical difference: When the police beats Leroy, there is a victim involved. When Leroy does not want to go out with Tamika, Tamika is not a victim, regardless of the reason that Leroy does not want to go out with her. Got it. Leroy has constitutional rights (to due process, to avoid cruel and unusual punishment, etc) When the police beat him up, they deprive him of those rights. Tamika has no moral, constitutional or legal rights to Leroy's affection. Fittingly we have laws on the books against the police beating Leroy up and none for Leroy not asking for Tamika's phone number.

As for hiring it is a little trickier because an employer that does not want to hire blacks could find a number of reasons not to and it is harder to prove discrimination. What happens when a employer does discriminate? The company loses because that employer is limiting the company's employee pool from the best of everybody to only one group (whites). The competent white workers lose because they have to work harder to compensate for the incompetent whites that were hired in place of competent blacks. The people who invest in the company loses because the incompetent whites are holding the company back and society loses because incompetent people are working while competent people are not. Hence we have laws against it.

On the other hand if Leroy is dating Molly while Tamika sits at home, nothing is lost except to the parties involved. If Tamika is "all that" then she will find somebody else and Leroy will miss out. If not, then she deserves to be at home alone. Leroy and Molly have each other and if that makes them happy, we live in a free society that allows us to pursue that happiness. Why does anyone have a problem with that?

The difference between true racial discrimination and personal preference in a free society is that the former attempts to and has the ability to forcibly interfere with the latter. The police or the people hiring have power over Leroy. Tamika has free will where it pertains to Leroy (the choice to obsess over him or not is hers).

And why does Evia care anyway? Isn't she supposed to be a BW-IR blogger. She contradicts herself in her own post. She writes:

Let me make myself clear AGAIN-LOL! I'm not interested in who AA males date or marry because...

then a few paragraphs later she is writing:

BE HONEST: HOW MANY AA MEN DO YOU KNOW WHO'D LOVE TO DATE A WOMAN WITH THIS WOMAN'S COMPLEXION? Hmmmm. I can hear the silence. LOL!

I thought she didn't care. In fact I could have qouted the entire second portion which was a study done on colorism of college students at some midwestern college. Why would she or her followers truly care what Black men do and who they prefer?

Click here for a very insightful explanation.

Violence Against Women: Harmful to All

2009-03-01T11:31:00.000-08:00

As predicted, you knew that the Something Screwed Crew (SSC) would use the Chris Brown/Rhianna situation to further their agenda. As if this "proves" white men are better at taking care of women. If you want to believe that then fine. I posted the above video to give you an alternative view. And in many ways the video above is worse. Why? Chris Brown is only a 19-20 year old immature young adult. The "Officer" is a 31 year old professional who should know better. I am not advocating that a 31 year old man should ever beat up a 15 year old girl, but if one does, one should make sure that a camera is not on. And this guy was supposed to be watching the public? Yikes.

We do not have all of the details but one thing I will agree with is that Chris Brown should have been better than to even let it come to the point where we are talking about this. I have had a woman or two trigger my fight/flight response and I always take flight.

The SSC always lament at how white women supposedly receive a superior level of protection from their men. The stats that I got from the National Domestic Violence Hotline website paints a different picture:

43% of women and 26% of men in multiracial non-Hispanic households suffered partner violence.

39% of women and 18.6% of men in American Indian/Alaska Native households suffered partner violence.

26.8% of women and 15.5% of men in white non-Hispanic households suffered partner violence

29.2% of women and 23.3% of men in black non-Hispanic households suffered partner violence.

20.5% of women and 15.5% of men in Hispanic households suffered partner violence.

So the most abused women are those in multiracial and American Indian relationships. Notice that the most abused men are men in Multiracial relationships and Black Men in relationships with Black Women.

RealityCheck: According to the NDVH 1 out 4 Women and 1 out of 9 men will suffer from domestic violence in their lifetimes. Dating and mating another race will not make you immune.

More on fat-struckness

2009-02-03T18:21:00.001-08:00

The cartoon above appeared in the New York Post based on how Jessica Simpson and her new figure are being received by the mainstream (RE: mostly white male) American Press. Once again here are the Something Screwed Crews (SSC) valiant white knights taking a shot at one of their own females for failing to meet their "quality" standards. While I am sure the SSC is taking much delight in seeing a famous white female go through a personal hardship, imagine the outcry from the SSC if a black owned media sourced dogged on a black female in such a manner.

Now it is one thing for someone to say something on a small blog, but this is the NY Post. Many people will see this and the message will filter around especially to many little girls and the message will be clear. If you are fat, you are not worthy. Do whatever and they mean whatever you have to do to be thin. The sad part is, even though she is not as svelte as she used to be, Ms. Simpson is not as obese as the image above depicts.

RealityCheck: Superficiality is not the domain of any one race of men. If the SSC wants to convince themselves that one group of men operate at a higher level of thinking then that is their own folly.

Is one form of shallow better than the next?

2009-02-01T02:29:00.000-08:00

Just a question: If black men are bad men because they are "color-struck" as Sara, Evia, and the Something Screwed Crew continue to insist, then are white men just as bad for being "fat-struck"?

If the Something Screwed crew is going to insist with derision on the old stereotype that black men only date fat white women that white men don't want, then doesn't this reflect negatively on white men, who are rejecting their own women the same way that these black women accuse black men of? Doesn't the white man fail to protect his woman when he forces her to exercise so much that her bones turn brittle in old age (osteoporosis)? Doesn't he not protect her when he makes her feel like eating so little that she even feels the need to vomit what little food she does ingest (Anorexia and Bulimia Nervosa)? Doesn't that make the black men who date these women in spite of their girth more valiant due to their ability to look past her body and see the real person? Yet another double-standard that the Something Screwed crew think that no one sees.

In actuality, the black man preferring fat white women thing is just something that some bitter white men created and is continuously restated by angry black women who don't see that this makes themselves look bad. Think about it. When a white man says it he is just trying to build himself up which makes sense, even though it is based somewhat on sour grapes. When a black women says it, she is practically saying "I suck so bad that men in my race would rather be with a fat women of another race than with me." So when these angry black women mock the supposed black man with his fat girl, she is really point out her own inadequacies to the world and she doesn't even realize it.

In actuality men that can only get fat white woman also can only get fat black women and vice versa. Men that date hot white women could get hot black women and vice versa. Look at the Canadian model that is banging Halle Berry. He could easily get a hot white woman. Look at Taye Diggs or Cuba Gooding Jr. Men of their caliber have their pick among women.

At the end of the day, the dating market is an efficient market in a free country. Since it takes two to tango, both people are getting what they asked for when they sign up to be with someone. Go with who makes you happy and leave everyone else alone.

How Many "Darrens" Do You Think There Are To Go Around?

2009-01-11T18:33:00.001-08:00

I am starting to feel sorry for Evia and her followers. For all of their supposed education, they lack a basic understanding of how things actually work in reality. I will do my best to clue them in with this post.

In her latest treatise on bed wenching, Evia cautions women from marrying "beneath their level". Quite honestly, I don't begrudge them of that. Historically women do find the best providers as the most suitable mates. In today's world that often means having more money, more education, more societal power, etc. What Evia and her followers refuse to acknowledge is that men and especially powerful men with options in his choice of female historically look for the most loyal and compatible best looking female or the "prize" if you will. And that is men of ALL RACES, not just "brainwashed black men". Men generally don't care what women do for a living nor where they went to college as long as it doesn't affect them in the relationship.

What this means is that if you want to be picky about your mate that is your choice, but be aware that your potential mate is doing the same. Whereas Evia and her followers have narrowed their fields down to only the highest potential males, high potential males have a much wider field to choose from, as long as the woman is physically beautiful and compatible with his life. And here comes the painful truth for the Evia's of the world: most times these high potential men do not see plain and unattractive females, and especially plain and unattractive black females in that light.

Before people jump on me, I am not saying that there are no attractive black females. There are and I have met many of them. What I am saying is that if the Evia's of the world want to date the best men, then they are gonna to have to compete with ALL WOMEN, blondes, brunettes, red heads, Asians, Latinas, Arabs, Native American, Blacks, etc,. Each group has it's beauties, it's plains, and it's uglies. High powered men pick from the beauties of each group.

Try as hard as they may to redefine the paradigm, no amount of horseshit can cover the reality: men want attractive women above all. In American society, the definition of attractive usually does not include the Evias. You can see it for yourself in any beer commercial, or any boxing match (check out the ring girls) or any music video, you know what I am saying.

So assuming that this "Darren" (chuckle) exists , how many Darrens are there? How many rich powerful successful white men that cook, clean, makes great love and gives you good sex, take care of your kids whether they are his biologically or not, and treat you like a queen are out there looking for a plain to unattractive black woman to marry? Well in general White American men of all classes are not looking to marry any black women, as less than 1 out 400 have a black wife! This is why majority of these black women who follow Evia will "settle" for a less than white man, if they can get one at all. If you live outside of the US (like the UK) please spare me the international lesson on interracial relations. This article is about black American women and American men, since most of these women will not leave the country in order to find a spouse.

How desperate is Evia for a white man's attention? At the beginning of the her article she boasts about an ad that features a white male and black female. One simple point: THEY WERE SELLING SCHOOL SUPPLIES, THEY WERE NOT DATING NOR MATING AND THE AD DID NOT IMPLY THAT AS THEY WERE NOT EVEN TOUCHING! Please get a grip on reality woman. If anyone wants to argue the numbers, then be my guest, but they are what they are. As of 2006, even though there were 3 times as many black american women as there were Asian American women, there were 4.5 times as many Asian Women/White Man couples as there were Black Woman/White man couples. Or in words, white men choose 13.5 Asian women for marriage for every black women he selects. If you are an Evia follower, are you ready for the competiton with this sect? Are you ready to compete with White Women and Latinas? Are you ready to compete with other black women (like cheerleaders and models), with half the education and twice the physical beauty as yourself? Are you ready to compete with other black women with twice the education and twice the beauty as yourself?

Of course in the Evia's perfect world, they would all be married to black men who are rich. Three barriers prevent this. The first barrier is that the number of black men with a six figure salary is not that big. Of course the number of people in society at large that make the much is not very big either. The second barrier is that black men who do earn that much tend to stay single and enjoy the "perks" of being a sought after male. I recently read (not sure how accurate it is) somewhere that 76% of black men that earn over $100K are single. And the third barrier which generates the most fire, is that out of the black men earning over $100K that are married, 60% of them are married to non-black women. The remaining 40% are probably married to women that look more like Vanessa Williams (the former Miss America, and not the other actress with the same name).

This should be okay according to Evia, right? I mean if black women have the right to vet (hate that word) black men as women have always historically done, shouldn't black men have the same right to vet women? In Evia's view, of course not. In typical hypocritical fashion she writes this to the woman who sought her advice on her potential mate:

DROP HIM! He's NOT on your level. He won't be comfortable in your professional circle or your expanding social circle.

Now imagine if Evia and her followers heard two black men talking and one said this to the other:

Drop HER! She's not on your level. She won't be comfortable in your professional circle or your expanding social circle (with her nappy head and dark skin).

Evia and her followers would probably lapse into an anaphylactic seizure if they heard this. While Evia encourages black women to date white men, she demonizes black men who exercise their choice of mates as "racists". They are not preferences as she do not think black men are worthy enough to be able to have preferences. To her these black men are just as bad as any white racist for not considering plain and unattractive black women as mates. Hypocrisy at it's finest. I'll do more on that in another post sometime later.

I will sum up all this with two reality checks:

Reality Check 1: Nearly every little girl grows up dreaming of marrying the prince, or a doctor, or a lawyer, or the star athlete. Just remember that you are in competition with every other girl who is now a woman who is looking for the same thing. If you want to win, you better be able to bring it physically, and that's at a bare minimum. It doesn't matter how many or what type of degrees you have since little boys who grow into big men grow up daydreaming about cheerleaders, swimsuit models, Victoria Secrets, Playboy, etc. Go ahead and try and outthink the Paradigm and call such men "immature". It won't work. I'm not saying other things such as loyalty, intelligence, integrity, chemistry, personality, class, compatibility, etc are not important. They are, but without the preceding physical attraction, a man probably will not hang around a woman long enough to discover those other attributes.

Reality Check 2: My neverending disclaimer: There is nothing wrong with two people of any race (or any sex for that matter), if they wanna hook up or get married, it is not my business. It happens all the time. If Bjorn and Monique meet in the bookstore in the travel section and start talking and fall in love, more power to them. Just realize that they are the exception and not the rule. If you go sniffing around another race expecting them to love you more than your own loves you, don't be dissapointed when that doesn't happen. Don't be suprised if you end up like the image at the top of this post.

Are Black Women Really That Far Ahead of Black Men?

2009-01-08T16:09:00.000-08:00

According to Sara Taylor they are. Of course Sara has a self-centered and self-serving agenda, so allow me to seperate the fantasy from the reality.

RealityCheck : While there were more black women (747,000) 18-24 in college then black men (480,000) in the year 2000, there were also 36.6 million blacks in the United States.

Only 17.6 percent of black people over age 25 have a college degree. The vast majority of black men and women do not possess a college education. While I do think a college education is valuable, it is not the only measure of success. Also one must consider that degrees and schools vary greatly (a Harvard Business student will rarely be unemployed while a JuCo Cultural Studies major may struggle in the job hunt), so comparing raw numbers don't mean a whole lot.

In typical Sara fashion, she uses a few pictures to illustrate her self-serving point (black man in prison, black women graduating college), so I decided to show a more realistic cross section of black men in America. Whether it is a cab driver or millionaire athlete, a recent grad or a surgeon, these men are doing their best to represent themselves, their families, and black people in a country that does not wholly provide enough positive images of black men. Despite being a black woman with a black father and black brothers, cousins, and uncles, Sara continues to add to the onslaught of negativity towards black men.

Why is this even considered "a competition" in the first place? Can there really be a "winner" if a chasm exist between the sexes? Don't you find it interesting that Sara would use a small sample of black people to represent black women's "domination" over black men? Not that interesting really, actually it is quite simple:

Sara uses the number of women in college as an indication of ALL Black women shows you what Sara cares about: herself and people like herself and their ability to bed wench themselves out to white men who will have them. Sara could give a damn about black women in general even though she claims to be a black women advocate.

How could a black women claim to "be so far ahead" of anyone when 23.4% of all black women over the age of 18 live in poverty? I will let you read this article to see where black women stand on things such as incarceration, STD's, out-of-wedlock pregnancies, etc.

All these things matter not to Sara, what matters is trying to come up with stats to impress "da white man" and justify being his cum bucket. Instead of reaching back and developing ideas to help these troubled black women, Sara instead lashes out at successful black men for failing to uplift their communities. While this lashing out is not without merit, her failure to apply the same standards to black women who fail to uplift the community is extremely hypocritical. Sara would be quick to demean a successful black man who moved away from the black community and call him names such as "coonified" and "sellout" and "white man's slave". However her solution to black women is to do the same: cozy up to da white man (who in reality gives less a damn about black women than anyone else as they are always his last choice of mate - but more on that in another post).

Like I always said, who people date and mate with is their own personal business, I could care less. Please cut the bullshit and do it on your own accord and stop pretending you have some higher purpose.

Welcome - An Introductory Post

2008-12-06T14:14:00.000-08:00

Welcome to my blog. This blog was created to counteract the constant hypocrisy, lies, distortions and non-truths that are being perpetrated by a few deranged and self-entitled black women (and I use that term loosely). These women refuse to take responsibility for their own lives and their own decisions and continue to blame everything that negatively impacts them on black men.

What fuels this movement? Part of it is a sense of self-entitlement. These women think that they all should be married to doctors, lawyers, pro athletes, or anyone who makes decent bank. These women fail to realize that men of all races are primarily interested in marrying the most attractive and compatible woman they can find. The wealthier the man, the more choice he will have. That may sound harsh, but it is real. It is a reality that these women can't comprehend when they see a black man of importance with his attractive wife. Even though many of these women have the figure of a cape buffalo, they think they should have him.

The other part that fuels this movement is that the "average" white man has a higher income than the "average" black man. Cha-ching! (Many of these women target above average earning black men and when they fail to impress him with their "feminine charms", they go on the warpath about these black men and settle for an "average" white man). These women settle for white men, but they feel guilty and hypocritical about it for all the griping that they do when the see a white woman with a black man. So to reconcile the chasm of their reality, they must find every fault with the black man (a man that is birthed through the birth canal and raised to adulthood by black woman such as themselves) in order to justify their choice.

Some of these women grew up watching the white male dominated mainstream media that shows more positive images of white men than other men and they just find white men more attractive. They don't have the courage to admit their own preferences, so they bash away to justify.

I have a 21st century mindset and I date who I want without apologizing nor making excuses. I believe if two consenting adults want to enjoy each others company then that is their choice and no one else's business. However if one feels the need to trash members of their own race (or any race) to justify that then that says something about the psyche of the trash talker.

So in conclusion, welcome to my blog. On future posts I think I will keep a simple format and just point out 1 particular lie, or hypocrisy or non-truth and then give my opinion on why I see it as such. And sometimes the truth can be unpretty and it can be downright graphic at some point, so I may consider making this blog an adult blog so I can post images as needed.

Please feel free to share comments or thoughts.

Truth B. Told.